I was introduced by the video below and I almost DIED.
Them buns are fiiiiioooonnneeee, girl!
Then I went online to google him and there was no real biography page existing anywhere.
So here is your biography.
Name: Yousef Erakat
Does he have a girlfriend?: No
School: San Jose State
Race: Palestinian American
Has: Biceps & Triceps
How did it all start?: He was a theatre student and he wrote a business plan and used social media consistently, hustled, and worked hard to provide entertainment via Youtube concentrating on topics such as being Muslim, Terrorism, Racism which led to other skits involving Kidnapping, random pranks, and Drake. Yeah. Drake.
Yes, I know you probably have sent one or two emails you regret and you were in Gmail while you were doing it.
Well, I am here to tell you…. you can UNSEND it. It is a short window of opportunity but better to have a window than to have a closed “You Messed Up, Yo!” door slammed in your face.
Step One. (Redundant, eh?) Anyway, Sign into Gmail OBVIOUSLY.
Click on the icon that looks like a peg at the right hand corner of the screen. Then left click SETTINGS.
Then go to the LABS tab –> Within LABS search for “Undo”.
Then after that click the radio button “Enable” and click “Save”.
Test it out by sending an email and clicking “undo” at the very top when you don’t mean to send it.
YOU ARE DONE!
It has been awhile since I wrote a “How-To” post instead of ramblings.
I might be developing a website creation addiction.
After working with my developers for over a month, my commerce website just launched! Sales (non new website related) are going great and it is now tax time again. I am currently working to develop two more websites, both of which are totally unrelated in every sense. One is selling one single product (Funded). One is selling a web service (30K+ project, Funded). I am also taking an automotive class, exercising every week, and I recently moved to a house with 1 other roommate who looks like he loves health. I will reveal these websites in due time – probably won’t be for another 6 months or so.
Being so busy makes me horny… all the time. Does that happen to you? Then you are all like, “Oh shit…” and you have to plow through the feelings by working harder and ignoring your natural urges? Like smothering your groin while it is yelling at you, “Pay attention to me!!”
I am in my late twenties and I am currently working almost seven days a week to make ends meet. I barely have a couple hundred dollars in my savings account…much of my paycheck goes towards paying for bills. I do not shop much nor spend too frivolously thus I live within my means. I feel that my life now revolves around finding ways to make more money so I don’t have to worry about living paycheck to paycheck. My family currently lives in a small apartment and there’s not much space for anything. I crave for a space that is mine, a place for a desk and a flower – a place I can work. I want a garden for my grandmother so she won’t be bored. She loves growing plants, flowers, and vegetables. I don’t think I am really good at anything or have any skill that’s valuable to be able to increase my income to a lot more than what it is. I guess time, hard work, and patience will be best for me. I’m not too happy with myself because I don’t make much and I can’t take care of my family the way I want to. Or I guess, I’m not happy because I feel that I haven’t accomplished anything. Any ideas?
Too Poor Too Worried
Everyone starts at the bottom. Everyone. And the fact that you aren’t making that much means you probably are at some entry-level job. It takes usually a couple of years doing entry level before you are promoted to a decent salary given our economy. Sure, you didn’t land that hot high salary paying job directly out of college and maybe you have stumbled upon many mediocre jobs before landing this one which by the way is still mediocre because you are again – starting over. However, any job is better than no job. Any movement in a direction where you are at least paying your bills, where your car payments and rent are being paid off is a positive direction.
Try sticking this job out for at least 2 years while improving instead of jumping from entry level job to entry level job. It takes a certain tongue biting, a certain level of drudgery you’d have to endure before you can even demand for more. You bid your time, you make friends with the boss, you make friends with coworkers, and you work smart enough to be noticed… but while you wait you don’t have to twiddle your thumb in agony over your low pay, you wait in GREAT ANTICIPATION AND EXCITEMENT for that day where you can ask for a higher salary because you fucking deserve it.
And let me tell you, that day will come sooner than you think. Negotiating a higher salary is very common… Employees all around the world engage in this very act CONSTANTLY. Once they ask for something better and they don’t get it, they at least have a couple of other options lined up. So stop focusing on the drudgery and the low pay and the minutia of daily life. Start collecting and DOCUMENTING your progress. A good salary negotiation is going to be backed up by facts, by a long list of email testimonials of how great you are at your job, a power point presentation of how your contributions changed your company by X percentage in terms of sales, customer service recognition. Arm your portfolio with as many complimentary amos as you can and spend your hours collecting and collecting instead of moping. No compliment through email is too small. No sales number is insignificant. Not as long as there is progress.
I would highly recommend investing in salary negotiation techniques because they are worth it. Ramit Sethi is known partially for his salary negotiation online product. It is a couple of bucks for a chance to have the confidence to negotiate a several thousand dollar increase in your salary. It is worth it. I tried it myself and increased my bonus amount by 300%. I know, ridiculous. But you never know how much your employer is willing to give unless you ask for it. Meanwhile, never stop applying to other jobs AS YOU IMPROVE, because you never know there might be a great job right around the corner with a higher salary you can use as leverage. If another company is willing to pay you more, your company will no doubt look at you with a different perspective. If you are suddenly in greater demand, that is all the more reason for them to give you what you want.
Let’s focus on your living situation. Having your own desk with a FLOWER is not hard to do in any situation as long as there is a roof over your head. Cell mates have their own desks. At work, you have your own desk. For your grandmother who loves growing vegetables, there are many indoor hanging plants she can do without having to add extra real estate to your current situation. She can do a hanging tomato garden. They even sell some kits at the $.99 only store! She can totally start doing urban indoor gardening.
Sometimes, people in their twenties have the luxury to fool around, make mistakes, live life recklessly. Life has serendipitously landed you a role of the caretaker for your family. For you to take on that role is already so self sacrificing, you do not need to beat yourself up with further guilt for not providing them the mansion or lifestyle you believe they deserve. I am pretty sure as long as you are paying all the bills, they have it pretty nice that someone else is taking care of them when they cannot do that for themselves. Already there should be a deep sense of gratefulness and if you are taken for granted then you should not beat yourself up more for it. Kind reminders of your generosity should at least be doled out once in a while so they can thank their lucky stars they are not homeless and starving.
You are right. Time, patience, and hard work will definitely be the best for you. It is in how you are biding your time that is causing mental agony. Bide your time by filling it up with your portfolio of minor to major accomplishments. You will see how they all add up. Bide your time by relishing in the simple joys life affords you because you are going somewhere and doing something instead of sitting around all day waiting for someone else to take care of you (I am adding this just in case but I know you already have your own life-relishing activities). It is important not to dismiss how important you are. Without you, your family will not have the care they are receiving. Without you, your company wouldn’t be benefiting so much from your efforts. It is important also to not dismiss your accomplishments no matter how minor.
The accompanying praise and the relics given to those who reach their milestones which are declared on Facebook or in real life… their milestones for the most part resulted from long roads traveled. Their milestones were accompanied by years of hard work, years riddled with tiny moments where they feel they are not worth it because they haven’t reached their pot of gold at the end of the rainbow yet.
The accomplishments you achieve, however minor, should be documented and not so easily dismissed so that when you step back to get an emotional outcast of your current situation – it is a feeling of gathered accomplishments enough for the overall picture to be a good one. A progressing one. There is something inside of you that is burning with truth – that you are worth and you deserve a lot more than your current salary and standard of living. Keep that truth burning because it is so so so much better than resigning to thinking your current situation is the way it always will be. Your salary is the best you can get. Your life is as good as it gets when it isn’t so good. The fact that despite what you tell me about how down you are about your current situation, you still maintain the “this can’t be it, it can get better, I am worth a lot more than this” attitude. So deep down you know your worth. KEEP PUSHING that feeling towards the surface so taking a step back to view yourself won’t be a painful experience of, “where am I? I haven’t gone anywhere,” to “I know my value and I am not standing still. Life is moving forward. I am moving forward. I am not where I want to be now but there is nothing stopping me from getting there. THESE ARE JUST MY HUMBLE MOTHERFUCKING BEGINNINGS, BITCHES! ONWARDS HO!”
Simply because I am so DAMN HAPPY all the time and I get many “Dear Polly” type questions from friends, I figured I’ll answer one publicly. If it proves to be a fun activity I will keep it up. If not, oh well, onto other things.
Feel free to contact meand send me your “ASK POLLY” questions. I will keep them anonymous and answer them!
I want to comment on this common female struggle: the battle for sanity. Given how we are all afflicted by the tides of various hormones not to mention the annoying obstructions to these tides randomly provided by pills, implants, and insertions all for the purpose of controlling birth – I see it fit to voice my observation after hearing about the relationship woes and confusion this struggle brings.
Men? For the most part they do not need to fight this battle for sanity. In relationships I have observed that they are usually calm.
So to maintain the semblance of a healthy relationship I’ve discovered that this battle must be fought and won on a monthly basis. 90% of the battle is internal and won with the aid of releases in whatever form they may be. But left unchecked and especially left underestimated, just rolling over and giving in to the ultimate female excuse to be emotionally volatile will lead to disaster.
Even if it is through a pained grimace to mask the true nature of your maleficent disposition – it still must be done. Maintaining any long term interpersonal interaction involves the maturity to bite your tongue and try to resolve everything with the coaxing sweetness of something honest yet silver all at the same time.
Because even if you have your demands and your needs – voicing dissatisfaction towards any individual reduces their ego and a person with an uncomfortable ego tends to be less open to promoting your personal happiness.
It is wise then to not get careless with vocal deliveries. That created moments of unease leaves a sour uncompromising aftertaste for everyone involved. That happiness is really about letting go of the things that do not matter all too much. Some recent turn of events and my mail lady (married 42 years) refreshed me of this truth because that is how you consistently win your battles for sanity.
In other news… an update on my current situation. Sales, without any real money spent on marketing/advertising, have gotten comfortable enough for me to provide for all my expenses thus far. I am past my 10th car and I am past being uncertain about the future. I am not as gung ho as I would like to be but that’s only because I prioritize having a life over not having one. I’ve learned to let go of a lot of stresses even though stress is an inevitable part of the daily madness.
To keep my sanity for the past couple of months I galavanted in the following activities:
In relationships I am always feeling out for that point to decide if I should go or stay. And maybe that isn’t healthy. But at the beginning that point of no return could be something very easy as an annoying habit they exhibit. It means the death of the interaction due to the fact that you’ve barely known them for a few dates and your point of no return has been breached. Later on it becomes the question of different lifestyles because now you are a bit more committed to even ponder this meshing of personalities. It was irrelevant until it became unavoidable. The point of no return to me means the point when you should definitely leave.
And the more you know someone, the further it fades into the distance. It becomes your far reaching horizon, blurred by the haze of the sunset.
The same thing applies to a hobby becoming a passion. The point of no return does not exist. Because you would do anything to make your passion happen and quitting is not an option.
Feeling for these points of no return makes me decide when to quit. But it also can leave room for premature decisions based on the feeling of a moment.
The less of a grasp I have on my points of no return – the more reassured I am of its permanence. Whether it’s a passion, a person, or a position.
keep-calm-cook-on-breaking-bad credit to: teepublic.com
So for the past month I feel a little more panicked than usual.
I moved to a desert town by myself in April.
Contrary to popular belief I did not move to the desert to cook (meth).
It is to start an autodismantling business in the middle of nowhere (which usually doesn’t matter all too much because most of my sales are international/out of state). The feeling of going from a 9-5 stable job every single day to tackling a business venture with no safety net didn’t feel like a sudden jolt out of what I was used to. It felt like a breath of fresh air I have been dying to breathe for the longest while.
I grew the business to a decent size in the span of 5 months by hiring necessary workers, developing relationships with shop owners/scrap metal recyclers/catalytic converter recyclers/battery-buying people/tire buying people/rim buying people/business mentors, replaced all my hats with good people, outsourced some, negotiated like crazy for everything I had to gather or purchase…
I even got a boyfriend.
Now it is the fifth month and I feel panicked. (more…)
Once again, it’s this nagging idea that has been bothering me.
Sometimes (or often)… you like to take brute pride in your own convictions. And you are then asked to be humble by certain methods of persuasion. One method the other party might enact includes playing the Devil’s advocate to remind you that different perspectives may exist. More like a fight for neutrality.
“SOME people might perceive it as that… yes… but others might not.”
How are you supposed to respond?
You realize this bothers you because after that “yes” is verbalized, your mind is probably going “So what the fuck is next?”
When a person is playing Devil’s advocate simply as a way to rub some neutral ground to your stated opinion (extreme as they may be sometimes)…. the only use of this tool is for halting what may come from your opinion. It’s to halt the next move towards your end game. Why? Because there is fear that you would take it too far? Because of their neurotic urge to feel right with an easy cop-out by stating the obvious?
Playing the Devil’s advocate without a proposed different solution or different insight provides no value add. It is a form of underestimating my intelligence by reminding me of what should be very much common sense.
Of course some people may see it as this and not that. OF COURSE others might view it differently. OF COURSE I might be the product of my own environment. OF COURSE it could be a strong influence of proximity, of peers, and OF COURSE.. it might not. THIS OR THAT… SOMETIMES… These phrases bother me if there is no solution after the fact.
Provide a damn solution if you are going to try and bring me back to the neutral ground I strayed away from. Purposely I left that neutral place a long time ago because I have an opinion.
My response could be, “Well, it’s my own opinion. Others might think differently. This is how I think.”
But that would be too obvious. Much more obvious than, “Some people think this way, others think that, too. Not everyone is like that, some of them are like that, others are not. Some things are that way. Often times it could be something different.”
It’s maddening because there is no proposed solution. It’s maddening because the very act of having an opinion is to take a stand away from being neutral.
I wanted to write about my take on what people consider “neediness” they don’t want/need to deal with. Why? Because it is a topic which is bothering me as of late.
At the beginning of a relationship, if it is the ones that start post-college, let’s face it – it probably is very sexual.
And when people meet up for these “dates” which are really = eating and waiting to have intercourse periods, ESPECIALLY when two people are casually dating and before exclusivity is declared….. you are not friends. Sorry. You are CFWBs.
CFWBs = CIVIL Friends With Benefits. Because you are not outright declaring you are using each other for sex/company since you don’t even know much about the other person. But basically that is what it is. TRUST.
This is compared to DFWBs = DECLARED Friends with Benefits. DFWBs are either best buddies who share a mutual love for sex and consistently sabotaging any real romantic relationship with their attempted dates OR they share a very cold relationship where hitting it and quitting it is the norm… still consistently sabotaging any real romantic relationship with their attempted dates.
When CFWBs become GF/BFs there is a shift in the paradigm. Both have agreed that they can have great sex and now are moving on towards other things…. like getting to know each other. Once great sex is almost a guaranty – you can commence with the transition between SEX MOSTLY to a SEX + Sprinkles of Romance relationship.
Here is where things tend to get STICKY.
ONE OF YOU WILL HAVE A NEED TO RECEIVE MORE ATTENTION. OR BOTH!
Because a transition from CFWBs –> GF/BF will not be a happy one unless SOMETHING is realized. That something is the fact that a yearning for friendship/love has begun. Improper response: “Hey, I was used to only responding to you once a week – what happened? WHY ARE YOU SO MUCH MORE NEEDY?” Proper response: “Oh, so you need me to do that to make you happy? Alrighty then! Let’s get this show on the ROAD.”
When something CLICKS in your mind and you want more attention/texting/calling/initiation during a period where there is USUALLY RADIO SILENCE…… you, my friend, are only exercising your right for love.
Think about it. You are given love freely from your parents. You are given love freely from friends – OF COURSE they don’t mind your need to share your thoughts. There is no such thing as an overload (unless that person is naturally annoying by a unanimous vote). You start to want the friendship/love that comes freely with others in your life – from your recently acquired significant other.
You are normal.
There are MANY ways this scenario can turn out:
1) They react with insecurity/fear for their own freedom thinking it is mostly about them and not really about your yearning to be fulfilled emotionally (because you got the physical shit DOWN)… then they are not your cup of tea. Spit it out. Throw away the freakin’ cup. Life is short. There is no need to keep on sipping that bitter nasty cup of tea when you can have the greatest CHAI TEA you’ve ever tasted in your LIFE if you simply moved on.
2) They react with trying to increase attention but naturally they suck at it because they are not used to it. Know yourself to know how much longer you can tolerate it. However, you will only continue to struggle with it which might lead to fights and could otherwise mess up an okay ending to a short lived story. No one needs to get mauled in this process. It was a good run – carry on. Everyone can move on happy.
3) They react by giving you the attention you need in DROVES. Like a train that suddenly started and will move NONSTOP. Like a double rainbow that never stops shinning – providing happiness forever. You are deliriously happy. You both move forward in delirious happiness. Because they realize it’s not about THEM when it comes to asking for more attention, it’s about YOU. And making YOU happy is what matters.
I might have exaggerated on certain parts of this description. But you get the gist of what I am saying.
*This is to exclude all behaviors of emotional manipulation. Once emotional manipulation comes into play – this whole explanation is moot.*
So for the longest time I wonder to myself why does Gmail have a corporate email version but it doesn’t act like outlook which is what the corporate world uses (most of the time). Even if salesforce is integrated there is a response ability that is unmatched on outlook (that is why almost every CRM has an outlook integration).
So damn awesome. Yesware lets you track what emails are being opened when you send them and you can use it to keep better track of your clients/customers/grandma/grandpa’s response rates! Which is GOLD. You can use it to follow up with your customers as well. I really route ALL my emails to Gmail (simply because I love gmail) and I can send out emails using any Alias’s with my gmail. I have over 30 email addresses I can “send as” using my personal gmail address. VERY useful if you start small tiny businesses.
I will show you how to use Yesware. It’s really simple. TRUST ME (more…)