Intimacy and Closeness

The other day I got a spam email from an SEO telemarketer critiquing my site as being too “company centric”.  Obviously he didn’t read anything on my site because… does a “company centric” blog site include a poem about sex on their site?  I didn’t think so.

A good point was made though – that if you go to this site you have no idea where to start or what to read because the topics are so damn varied.  Therefore, I’ve decided to make pages such as “NEWCOMER? START HERE” in the menu as well as ARCHIVE, PROJECTS, and CONTACT.

I’ve yet to make those pages.

I recently read Mark Manson’s post about 3 explanations why he thinks single people (who hate being single) are still single (and hating being single).

Let me break it down for you

1) Too high expectations of others while not really being hot shit themselves.  Overweight woman expects to date a man with six pack abs for example.

2) Not respecting their health/emotional well being enough to work really hard to be an emotionally and physically healthy individual … and wondering why they are getting rejected for relationships.

3) Skills for intimacy are not developed yet.  Which means they interpret every argument/fight as unbearable & can’t feel comfortable in getting close to someone because they don’t want to explore themselves on a deeper level and be okay with it.

I agree with all three points.

I think I’ve been through all of it and the one I struggle the most with is #3.

Why not #1 or #2?  I changed myself for the better by hiring a therapist to allow me to see reality clearly when it came to #1 and #2.  I got off my ass, exercised more, killed almost 80% of my expectations for people and what they can provide for me – instead I focused on becoming more giving without counting tabs & seeing where it goes when that happens.

#3 is tough.  How can you tell your SO that the cause of your pain is them without hurting them in the process? And vice versa?  It’s difficult.  Even if it is delivered at calm times.  I think it’s because to yourself – you are perfect (or close enough).  You’ve figured out for the most part what makes you happy.  And everything else outside of what makes you happy will mean… unhappiness.  And unhappiness is not what you want to include in your life.

You don’t want to face or even fathom the idea that sometimes.. you are not a good person.  Sometimes you are downright selfish.  Sometimes you are rude and you act in a way which hurts others unintentionally or otherwise.  There are these darker sides to you that resurface once in a while.  Although they do not make up the majority of your traits and personality – it hurts to admit to yourself that you are a bad person (sometimes).

I think the more you view yourself as a really good decent honest loving person… and you stick to that ideal rather vehemently… the harder it will be for you to accept any other versions which compromises this image.  And anyone who is close enough to see all sides of you will eventually point out the sides you basically ignored for the most part because god forbid you are not THAT guy/girl.  Any conversation which would touch upon the subject that maybe you are selfish, mean, horrible sometimes would hurt. A lot.

And when your SO gives two shits about you, you’re going to hear the good and the bad.  Getting 100% good is nearly impossible.  Nothing will be 100% out of the box.  And if you expect 100% you are suffering from not only #3 but #1 as well.

Being comfortable enough to explore yourself changes this mentality:

1) OWWW. You remind me sometimes that I am not perfect. That I am rude/mean/inconsiderate sometimes.  That I am vengeful/passive aggressive/not 100%/not good enough sometimes.  That is NOT okay!  I hate this!  I want OUT!  I guess I am meant to be alone because then I can JUST BE HAPPY! I WAS HAPPY BEFORE THIS!

to this:

2) I hear what you are saying & how it hurts you.  But I am secure about myself emotionally to know that I am not 100% evil/a bad person.  I have good intentions and I see somehow that doesn’t translate into my actions.  I understand things can be misinterpreted.  It’s not the end of the world.  I’ll see if I can approach it differently next time.

Mark says it is the difficult road to emotional stability.  Because in order to be healthy mentally you have to work hard at your own humility almost everyday, you have to work hard to be physically healthy (Your self esteem will be greatly influenced if you are not physically healthy), you have to fight every damn battle of irrational thoughts or refrain from behavior that can be misinterpreted.

Does this mean you are losing yourself and your own happiness?  I think the struggle is REAL, folks.  But you are not losing yourself.  You are gaining the ability to be close to someone and be okay with it.  This is a very cool skill to have.  Why not have the skill where you can be open, accept criticism come what may, still remain positive about life and love and proactively change yourself for the better?  Sure, the process will be painful.  Sure, you will probably have your ego crushed sometimes.  We can either let life hurt us and give us the excuse to stay hurt or we can be okay with what life throws at us because whatever it is… whether it be people who think we are not 100%… whether it be customers who just hate our guts…. or whether it is a big fat LEMON….

you can still make lemonade.

I think making lemonade when life throws you lemons is UNINTENTIONALLY PROFOUND.  It is profound because instead of running away from those pack of lemons, you are making something delicious out of them.  Happiness then ties into something that’s already there & working with it versus discarding it for the next thing that pops up.

The saying could’ve been… when life gives you lemons… you … THROW THEM ON THE GROUND.. and go with THE BAG OF APPLES.

(But it’s not.)

Yes. Chin pimples = CHIMPLES.

Yes. Chin pimples = CHIMPLES. Also, I was going to filter myself completely green to resemble the Hulk’s bastard child. But I changed my mind last minute.

 


YOU GOTTA STOP STARTING BUSINESSES

This was what my boyfriend told me the other day…

I looked back on what was going on and.. damn.. he is right.

I started this. And this. And this. And this blog.

I think I may have a problem.

You know, maybe it is the “No fear of failure” thing that has my adrenaline going.  But it might be “Too stupid to say No” syndrome.  I plunge into many ideas without knowing much of what’s going on hoping that I land on my feet and figuring that I will learn as I go.  It is getting ridiculous because at the same time…I fear failure almost everyday.

What’s the worst that can happen?  I become homeless? I don’t WANT to become homeless!

I know I will be able to get a job and start all over again if I fail.  So… why not?

Indoor Rocking Climbing at Hanger18 with my gal pal VAL

Indoor Rocking Climbing at Hanger18 with my gal pal VAL. I know…BLURRY…sorry?


How To Take Orders Using Authorize.net

I am continuing my How To Start And Run An Ecommerce Company Step by Step series… How to take orders using authorize.net.

Okay, so you opened your business.  And you are getting payments through Paypal because that is the only thing you know.  You can do the lame thing and send yourself an invoice with paypal… then take down their credit card numbers… then pay your own invoice with their credit card information…

And let paypal rape you with their 2.9% + $.30 per transaction fees.  NOW WHAT?

You can use authorize.net.

A customer randomly wants to pay you with his card… and you have no reader… now what?

You can go online and log into authorize.net.

1) Buy your authorize.net account through a reseller.  You cannot buy it directly from them.  Why do companies do this?  They don’t want to deal with customer service any longer and they know they have a product everyone wants.  They would rather let their trusted resellers deal with all the customer service.  This is a smart move.  Here is a list.

Call everyone and haggle for the best prices.  Resellers get a percentage cut off of market value so it will be a good situation for you if you can get a large portion of the discount authorize.net gives them.

2) Log into Authorize.net

3 ) Click on Tools

It should look like the below:

Authorize.net

Authorize.net

4) Authorize.net is a payment gateway that won’t rape you with high fees.  Card readers like Square …does.  Or any other type of “Free” card readers that gets mailed to you.  But hey, if you really don’t care – they offer a great convenience.  And if you have a store-front where you are getting orders face to face every single day – use a reader because then you can get more money in and keep the lines short.

Here is something I learned later on… which you will learn NOW.  You can take payments from people who have cards with international billing addresses.  You would have to change some settings… view the screenshot below:

Go to settings –> Address verification service –> uncheck the G, U, S.  UNCHECK GUS!  Now, viola, you can take an order from anyone living on an international island..for example.

settings

settings

 

address

address

Uncheck GUSUncheck GUS

5) Authorize.net can also integrate with your own website.  You can create separate log-ins for different people.  I created a developer log-in and he goes in and uses the API code Authorize.net provides.  Suddenly you can take payments online.  You can also do re-occurring billing.  Not every customer in the world will have a paypal account so might as well know how to receive payments in other forms!

I hope that helps you guys!

Thanks for the increase in traffic!  My worth of web for this website has shot from $215 to…$1493.  My goal is to reach $2000.  YES, THAT’S ALL I’M WORTH.. ISN’T IT?!??!

My worth of web 7 17 14

My worth of web 7 17 14

In other news… a company I co-launched with a fellow named Ron over a month ago has TWO ACTIVE PAYING subscribers now.  WEEEEEEE!  TWO SUBSCRIBERS!!!!!!!!  Hey, that’s better then no subscribers. It gotta start SOMEWHERE.

AND… because I feel like it might be a good idea to write about youtube celebrities, I am co-launching an online Magazine-like/Wiki mutation featuring just biographies about Youtube Celebrities.  The site looks like there is nothing on there.. which … there really is nothing on there right now.  But I am taking it ONE DAY AT A TIME.  My co-founder is Lynn.

Below are a few pictures of my rock climbing trip.  The top one involves climbing a 3 pitch, 300′ wall of rock in South Lake Tahoe.  GOTTA LIVE MAS!

Tackling Corrugation Corner with my PINK HAT!

Tackling Corrugation Corner with my PINK HAT!

Corrugation Corner climb at Lover's Leap

CLIMBING AT PHANTOM SPIRES!

Hi

Phantom Spires at South Lake Tahoe

 

 


Who Is Anthony Padilla?

So…who is he?

Biography:

Name: Anthony Padilla

Age: 26

Birthday: September 16, 1987

Height: 5 feet 11 inches

Weight: 158 lbs

Does he have a girlfriend?: Yes. Engaged to her.

Founded: SMOSH productions.

Interesting stuff: He sleepwalks and he grinds his teeth at night.  He also suffers from panic attacks.

How did he get famous?: He made youtube videos with his friend Ian which involved mostly comedy skits.

Subscribers as of now: 18 Million.

He is the guy with the long hair.


Sources:

Youtube channel here.

Smosh wiki.

You guessed it..  This is my second SEO experiment!  The first one went so well, I decided to follow up with a biography of Anthony Padilla.  He is a tiny bit more popular than Yousef Erakat with 8K searches for his name/month.  Unlike other biography pages, I will keep mine short.  Very short.  Almost frustratingly short.

Who is Anthony Padilla?

Anthony Padilla Searches WHOA ALMOST 9,000/MONTH!!!

Yes.  I am going for the big fish this time.

Actually, the world asks.. I will answer.

Who is Anthony Padilla?

Anthony Padilla Key Words

  • Anthony Padilla Girlfriend: Kalel Cullen
  • Anthony Padilla Shirtless: Sorry.
  • Anthony Padilla Twitter: Here.
  • Anthony Padilla Height: 5′ 11″
  • Anthony Padilla Mexican: Maybe. Definitely Native American and 1/4th Filipino.
  • Anthony Padilla Age: 26
  • How old is Anthony Padilla: 26
  • How Tall is Anthony Padilla: 5′ 11″
  • Anthony Padilla Birthday: September 16, 1987
  • Is Anthony Padilla Married: Not yet.
  • Is Anthony Padilla Gay?: No

Okay.  I got too tired answering these repetitive questions.  I will update you guys in a few months.  Till then!

Behind the scenes of YOAST SEO plugin for WordPress:  My overall score is still a good one for this page.  However, look at what I am too lazy to fix below:

YOAST SEO FOR WORDPRESS

Behind the scenes!

What have I been up to? I went to a wedding.

Hang and Thoai's Wedding

Hang and Thoai’s Wedding

I climbed Corrugation Corner at lover’s leap!  It is a 500 feet tall, 3 pitch climb.  It took from 8:30ish – 4PM.  Pictures will be added later.

Fuck yes.

Then I relaxed at a hot spring in Bishop.

Hotspring in Bishop

Chillin’ without my millions

 


 SEO Update & Yousef Erakat (AKA FOUSEYTUBE)

So like I told you guys I am going to provide an update from my SEO experiment.

3 Months ago almost exactly (on March 5th, 2014) I decided to write about an up and coming youtube dude named Yousef Erakat.  I wrote … a few bullet points.

The term is searched roughly 5,000/month & online there wasn’t any biography of this big butt comedian/student/youtubian.  I chose the term “Who is Yousef Erakat” as my keyword phrase for the blog post.

3 months ago: My worth of web was around $215.

NOW…..TURN DOWN FOR WHAT!??!!?

July 2nd 2014 Worth Of Web

July 2nd 2014 Worth Of Web

 

 

 

 

 

17 Days after I wrote that post, I was ranked past the 11th page of Google.

I am now on the first page for “who is yousef erakat” and on the second page of google for simply “yousef erakat”.  Right under the very link to his Youtube Channel.

First Page Of Google For Who Is Yousef Erakat Phrase

First Page Of Google For Who Is Yousef Erakat Phrase

AND…

The peepz shared this post

The peepz shared this post… like they had rabies.

AND… I started getting emails….. ABOUT YOUSEF.

2014-07-02_2230I said it would take 3-4 months for a phrase with low competition and a high search (5000/month is not exactly THAT high…) for you to travel to the first page of google for that particular phrase.

BAM. Proof.

Thanks for being a part of this experiment, dude!

Thanks for being a part of this experiment, dude!

Stay tuned… for the next SEO experiment!

 


Tech Hack: For Free – How to Get Unlimited Sharing Space via Dropbox and BitTorrent Sync

Yes, another life hack for ya.

This one I discovered by experimenting around.

So, I know you guys have heard of BitTorrent… (Let’s face it, WHO HASN’T?!?!).

But there is another company called BitTorrent Sync and it lets you share UNLIMITED FILES between devices FOR FREE.  You heard me folks. FREE UNLIMITED SHARING BETWEEN DEVICES!

Wait wait, hold on a minute, I forgot to mention the caveat… you need to keep that computer on or the device has to be turned on for the sharing to commence.  The shared files are not going to be uploaded into “THE CLOUD”.  Instead your device will be the actual place where the files are stored.

Why is this useful?

Because now you don’t need to remotely sign into your other computer any longer to grab that file.  It acts just like dropbox but without the cloud.

THEN IT GETS INTERESTING…

I was thinking, hmmm, I do have several computers I keep on within the warehouse (just because there is no point turning them off and on everyday).  I have people who do NOT have a dropbox with unlimited space given to them so when I share my files (My dropbox is at 56 GB), they usually can’t see all my files because their dropbox is limited to 2.5GB as the free version.

What I do is I download BitTorrent Sync and designate the Syncing folders to be my DROPBOX FOLDER.  ANY changes I make via dropbox is synced automatically into the cloud and then consequently updated on the computers that remain powered ON.  ANY changes my friends/workers make in regards to any sync’d files are automatically updated on all MY devices with dropbox.

Is this getting confusing for you?  I hope not.

Here is a simple EXPLANATION:

dropbox

Limited to 2.5 GB Free Version

bitTorrentSync

bitTorrentSync Unlimited File Sync

 

file-sharing-folder

Files that can be Dropbox Files (For syncing to the cloud) AND can also be SIMULTANEOUSLY BitTorrent Sync Files (For FREE syncing between devices)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Computer 2 (Receives unlimited syncing)  <—–>  BitTorrent Sync’d NON-CLOUD Files (Unlimited Syncing) <—> Dropbox’s CLOUD Files (Limited to Your Dropbox’s Account) on your computer ==EQUALS== Make any changes to any dropbox files, Computer #2 will receive those changes and those files WITHOUT having a dropbox account.

Because most of people I share with on dropbox aren’t so ballin’ as to have 59.9 GBs (Free from friends accepting invitations and other promotional offers dropbox let me utilize), whenever I share with them any dropbox folder theirs automatically run out of space. 

This is a very useful work-around.  They can get your files whenever any computer containing the files is turned ON.  As if it’s like a folder on their desktop that automatically updates everytime they turn on their desktop/whatever else device they use.

There is no need to do a work-around if you have the money to invest in Dropbox’s Business Accounts.  $9/month for 100 GB sounds great when you want the luxury of getting access to files whether or not the computer these files are on are powered on or off.  However, with BitTorrent Sync you can keep your computer on and have others get UNLIMITED/ NO SIZE LIMIT access to only those designed files.  If you follow my hack and you combine the two, if the computer is not on, you still have access to these files.  The only downside is your worker/friend might not have access if they have a limited dropbox account.

Even though I wrote about this work-around.. I really have to pay homage to Dropbox.  Because of them, many businesses simply EXIST on a BETTER more PRODUCTIVE level.  They are awesome!

What have I been up to?  I went climbing in Big Bear.  AAAAnd had quite a blast celebrating a friend’s bday!:

Climbing in Big Bear

Climbing in Big Bear

 


 How To Outsource Using Odesk or Elance

First of all.. everyone and their outsourced MOMS communicate through Skype.

So download Skype and set up an account.

THEN….

1) Create a job on Odesk or Elance… you don’t need to fuss so much over who to choose.  They’ve since merged… so you are just dealing with the same company anyway.

2) Make sure you’ve set up some training videos for your workers.  You can download Camstudio or Jing for free.  Jing lets you upload 5 minute videos for free.

3) Connect these videos directly to Youtube or go a step further and make training tests/exercises on talentlms.com.

4) Test them out with a few scenarios first and then .. hire!

5) Create a separate email account for them through your hosting company, maybe bluehost.com.  Remotely go into their computer using teamviewer.com in order to set up whatever software you feel they might need.  Create their own mailing signature.  Create separate permissions restricted accounts for them across the board that links to their company email account you create.

5) Manage them with Redbooth.com while they manage your clients with insightly.com & mailchimp.com.

Virtual assistants or any type of assistant online is a great way to alleviate your workload.  They are incredibly valuable people and it’s amazing companies such as Odesk, Elance, Fivrr, Freelancer.com, and Mechanical Turks from Amazon are able to bring it all together for us.

There are probably better softwares to use online and a better way to go about this but this is what I use and how I go about it on a bootstrapping level.  I hope it helps!

Simple, eh?

 

Yep.

 

Anywho – what have I been doing?  I have been rock climbing.. a whole bunch.  I am doing more leading and bouldering as well.  I launched a separate company called http://superfastlistings.com with my co-founder Ron.  A franchise is in the works and…. life so far is busy/exhausting/good.

Hanger18

Hanger18


How to Manage Your Team Using Redbooth

This is part of my How To Start And Run An Ecommerce Company Step By Step blueprint.  The first part.

Sooooooooo…… Redbooth is free up to 5 users.  There are other team management programs you can use.

If you are managing a coding team and you are coder yourself – try gitlab.com

If you are a person who isn’t a coder but wants to manage a team larger than 5 people AND you have money – try basecamp.com

If you are a person who isn’t a coder but wants to manage a team of 5 people or less BECAUSE you have less money (ie. broke) – I would go with redbooth.com HANDS DOWN, YO.

I know, I know, you are probably wondering, “WHAT IS SO SPECIAL ABOUT REDBOOTH?!”

To which I will say… calm down. Yo.  Let me thoroughly explain:

1) Redbooth is WONDERFUL to manage tasks because you can reference your team with an “@” sign, just like twitter, within a task, and it will not only update the message with a time stamp within redbooth BUT it will also send a notification email to your team mate you are referencing.  And THIS is where it is valuable.  Email notifications simply gets NOTICED!  Having the cumbersome duty of visiting the actual website is no longer necessary.  The trick is…you can reply to the email notification within your own email and it will update on redbooth as well.  Crazy, eh?  This saves tons and tons of time.

Below is a screen shot from a project I am working on:

Nifty, eh?

Nifty, eh?

2) Everyone in the project can see EVERYTHING and can see who is referencing who.  You can also privatize tasks as well to a few viewers or only yourself.  This allows for privacy as well as the ability for everyone to have an overall look at the project in one glance.  I highly recommend switching the view to COLUMNS from LIST view because it makes everything more absorb-able (like osmosis!).

  • How to BEST use this feature is to have tasks with the big picture in mind:
  • Customer Support, Sales, Website Design, Website Coding, Content, Admin Username and Passwords, Finance.
Redbooth

Redbooth

3) Since the search function is incredibly fast it will be better than wading through your email.  You can assign a task.  Connected to a task are essential things:

  • Privacy – you can assign who can see the task.
  • Integrations – you can connect google documents, dropbox, box, or upload a document from your computer.(To use all integrations you need to upgrade… but attachments are accessible with the free membership).
  • Time tracking – you can put in how many hours the task took you to finish or how long it took for you to assign the task.
  • Assigning the task – you can assign it to a team member and they will get an email notification of the due date as well as all the details within the task AND the attachments IN THEIR EMAIL as well as on Redbooth.  THIS IS SO USEFUL.
Task

Things are blacked out for privacy.

So why is it good to use over others?

It makes the experience of managing a team, keeping up with deadlines, knowing a task is associated to what project and there is a cookie crumb trail for you CLEARLY DISPLAYED so you can backtrack a task to its origin quite easily, knowing who said what and where and WHEN (everything is time stamped), and being able to see the big picture by a mere GLANCE with the task view.

I am a fan of Redbooth because it makes sense.  A lot of thought went into creating this software that is user friendly and intuitively makes sense for me – their consumer.

If you have any questions about Redbooth do not hesitate to ask.

On a personal update:

Went to King King in Hollywood to celebrate my friend Brandon’s bday!

King King, YO!

King King, YO!  It looks like I might need to get my fingers checked.


MY BOOK KEEPER IN PAKISTAN TEACHES ME ABOUT WEED

This is the type of conversations I have with my book keeper on a Thursday afternoon. Of course. 

J (Book keeper): *Sends me a link regarding an article about weed*
you will not believe that this is growing in my back yard ..

me: it is?
you are growing weed?
HAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!
it is illegal here
in california
do you smoke it?

J: nope

me: well, you can smoke it

J: dont know how to .. 😛

me: are you sure it is growing in your backyard?

J: i might have pic, wait let me check

me: okay.  email me a pic

 J: some people drink it but i dont think any one smoke it around here …

 me: WHAT THE HECK.  HAHAHAAHAH!

 me: no one drinks it here
they cook the oil into food
or smoke it
that’s it

J: i think its a different kind ..

me: yeah

J:

Plants

Is this Weed?

DSC_0071

tell me if its smoke able .. 😛

me: hmmmm
at any point
do you see tiny teeny
stuff like

Weed Bud

This looks like a small creature.  Almost.

J: no, it never go like that ..

me: LOL!  then it isn’t the right kind

J: some of my friends smoke weed but it come in black rubber type form ..

J: BTW where were you born .. ?

me: vietnam
weed never comes in a black rubber type form
HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!
THIS IS CRACKING ME UP J!

J:  i have seen nuggets of that stuff also,

me: you have seen it?
where? in your backyard?

J: nope some people make them to eat or troll some one..

me: maybe you are confusing weed with something else
HAHAH

J: it might be different type but it is same stuff ..  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cannabis_(drug)

me: yeah

this the stuff used here..

its same thing but processes

me: OH!!! wow
i did not know this
J: processed#
J: i dont think you even smoke  cigarettes
me: i don’t smoke anything (This is a half truth.)

J: Good for you..

So …. From Wiki: Charas is the name given to a hashish form of cannabis which is handmade in IndiaNepalPakistan and Jamaica. It is made from the resin of the cannabis plant (Cannabis sativa or Cannabis indica). The plant grows wild throughout Northern India along the stretch of the Himalayas (its putative origin) and is an important cash crop for the local people although the cultivation is illegal in India.

Looks like this:

Weed of Pakistan

BALLS AND STICKS.  THIS ISN’T PHALLIC AT ALL.

So I did not know this.  Now I know.  And now YOU know.



My Boyfriend’s Internet Company Email

I got this test email the other day after telling him he needs to have a good welcome email set up once someone signs in and subscribes.

This is what he sent me.

————————————————————————————————

On Wed, Mar 19, 2014 at 7:53 PM, R <> wrote:

Hi Penguin,

I made your profile on CENSORED COMPANY NAME, which you can view here:
http://testotestotheresreallynourl.com

You will be able to access your admin page from the managers cabinet sign in (from the sign in page, click managers cabinet and then enter your login info there), which you can find here:

http://www.CENSOREDCOMPANYNAME.com/manager/sign_in

On the managers sign in page, enter your login credentials:

username: penguin@butt.com
password: peng234

Please enter a detailed profile, with a full menu, and some photos. We find that the more information you provide will  highlight your business better, and it will also make the customer feel more comfortable with choosing your store.

Thank you for joining CENSORED COMPANY NAME!

Your 90-day free trial will end on  March 29th, Latuda!  After the 90 days, if you are happy with our service and do not wish to cancel, your credit card ending in 45penguinbutt67 will be charged $59 on a monthly basis.

Please let me know if you have any questions or need any help setting up your account.

Sincerely,

R
CENSORED COMPANY NAME CEO, Co-Founder
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Apparently R needs to learn how to call me by my birthright name sometimes.  Because being called an animal can get tiring.  And on top of that, Latuda is a made up word.

 


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