How To Still Learn
1) By not quitting.
So today I want to discuss several things. All the things I wrote about earlier… I moved forward in that direction but ended up not doing much of it. Probably 20% was done.
I tried not buying any cars for this month (October) and decided to “coast”… however.. sales dropped from 11K to 7.5K.
That’s what I get when I try to “coast” an automobile dismantling company.
With less to do – I sometimes just spend the whole day reading blogs.
This is not productive.
The lesson learned here is always try new things and you will figure out what works and what doesn’t.
What I discovered in my laziness is that spending MORE money by buying cars will create waaaaaay more sales than the savings I get by not purchasing more cars for that particular month. Sure, I save… $1K by not buying another car. I just lose $3K in return. If I did spend that $1K-$2K buying/dismantling that car… I would receive back 4-5K more that month.
THIS IS LIFE. A constant, continual, learning experience.
Reed told me posting pictures of my feet might be disgusting. Who cares, I’m posting it below:
I went to get a pedicure for the first time in my ENTIRE LIFE with my gal pal Val. It felt good, but for some reason I didn’t feel the necessity of it. I didn’t get this overwhelming itch some females have for this ritual of having to be served by hand and feet from another human being and then painted on for several hours as they gossip about you in a foreign language behind your back.
Maybe I am too manly. The urge for massages, for manicures, pedicures, etc… does not enter my mind. Maybe it comes as a more evolved form of “taking care of yourself” and I’m not there yet. Who knows. All I know is.. it cost me $37 for 10 rounded tips to be painted another color from the natural color of nude/cracked calloused. Cracked Calloused is a new color, by the way.
So.. couple of things I’ve started doing this month:
I started a podcast. So far it has two episodes.
I am teaming up with an SEO expert to write an eBook which I hope I will publish within this MILLENNIAL. I tried writing an eBook of my own and it has been 4 years. It is unpublished, gathering pixelated dust. And I will publish THIS ebook with errors, flaws and all. Why? Because it’s better than an unpublished NOTHING while I seek aimlessly for a perfection that will never come.
I sic’ed my team of developer/designer duo on automating superfastlistings.com so that once you sign up, you will automatically get an email detailing you on what to do and what information to input. After information is inputed then stage 2 is commenced. Before that I used to personally send out every welcome email (a copy and paste procedure) that was not necessary but since I was too busy to delegate this task out – it was never done. TILL NOW. They have yet to finish. I hope to have it wrapped up by the end of this week.
I am going to revamp my mailing list once and for all.
I started meal prepping for the week and I am getting better at it. Meal prepping is great!
Below are more pictures from my night out with my gal pal Val. I ordered all the sushi. Valerie is a vegetarian. I think I had 7 plates to her 1.
LESSONS BE DAMNED:
1) I best be buyin’ them cars or else I will be losin’ ’em sales!
2) I do not work well ALONE. In whatever capacity. I need people because with people I actually push myself harder.
3) Posts/Podcasts/Listings/Company stuff/Managing developers/Ebook writing/etc. = all are lumped into a massive workload. When sometimes I prefer just sitting by myself watching to stand up comedy and reading blogs at my leisure the entire day. The only way to do stuff is to do it and get’er done. (I don’t know why I chose this particular vernacular right now with all the shortened words…. but it’s fun to me at the moment. Please don’t rain on my PARADE!).
4) For my birthday (I just turned 28 years young) I chose to scale a 770 foot wall of rock. And it was massively fun. I recently spoke to a friend, just catching up on life (because that’s what friends do sometimes when it’s around your birthday and they glance your way since they received some facebook notification)… this was how the convo went:
Friend: “How’s life Kim?”
Friend: “I’ve been so busy. I work 3 jobs and 16 hour work days.”
Me: “So far I am trying to run 2 businesses but I work around 20 hours of real work a week. I sometimes spend all day reading blogs.”
Friend: “I barely have time to date but when I do I can’t devote any time to these women who want my attention.”
Me:”I just recently climbed a 700 foot wall in Nevada & I now have some time to make room for more of a relationship.”
Friend:”Wow, our lives are so opposite.”
I want to say yes to more life experiences at the same time I want to continue building businesses. I want to work really hard but I want to spend all day lying on a couch in my warehouse. Some friends have figured it out and I am envious because sometimes I find myself questioning life way too much.
I am not afraid to want random opposite things and trying out a bunch of different stuff. I’m not afraid to posting pictures of my feet on the internet. I’m not afraid to fail. And that is how I still learn.
Enjoy the pictures below.
Life is Good
The simple goals I’ve made for myself eventually gets done & I want to write a post to celebrate.
2) Point was deleted.
3) Get more than 11K in sales/month for my auto parts company. –> It took a TON of work. 1.5 years of effort. But I did it!
4) Hire a virtual assistant. –> He is very helpful and an extremely fast worker.
6) Get over 500+ connections on linkedin. –> 557 and counting! I know. I need to update my profile. I will soon.
7) Push the worth of web of this blog site to over $2000 –> Did it! That means:
8) Be more happy with myself, hang out with more friends, & exercise more –> I have membership to Hanger 18 and I have been climbing like a gym monkey! I am making time more for friends as well. I also recently got a Mega Jul, Gri gri, Quick Lok carabiner, Quickdraw set of 5, my own chalkbag (instead of borrowing from my boyfriend all the time), my own purple harness, and a really cool headlamp. Yeaaaaahhhhh.
9) AND LAST BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY = Prioritize what’s important. –> Listening to people more and put more effort into genuinely appreciating the friendships and relationships I have.
FUTURE SIMPLE GOALS
1) Recognize/appreciate/learn how to trust and love more.
Fix all broken links.
Build a thriving forum.
Sign up to Clickbank to create an affiliate marketing avenue.
Hire someone to do marketing & do SEO for the company.
Get monthly subscription to be $500/month. It is a very modest goal so it is within our reach.
Get over 100 Subscribers to our newsletter. Right now we have 69 subscribers.
3) Bless Lynn’s heart. I shut down sometimes when life gets too much but she is patient with me & lets me be until I can recover and return.
Get rid of broken components on whoistubian.com
Implement and earn at least $1 in affiliate link marketing on whoistubian.com
Write more blogs!
Earn at least $1 in adsense revenue.
4) Push my auto parts company to 20K in sales/month. [This will hopefully not be that difficult.]
5) Learn how to aid climb so I can do big walls or large walls & in general become a stronger climber and a more athletic individual so I can conquer life – better.
6) Start Auto Parts Lab. It is another auto dismantling company but this time it will be run by more than just 1 person. I will have two co-founders. This is my first stab at trying to franchise but not really franchising. Goal is to break even for the first month.
7) Work on kimpossibledang.com as a blog.
Start a podcast. Never tried it before but thought about it for awhile.
Get worth of web to $3000.
Reach at least 30 email subscribers. Right now I have 18.
Have more affiliate links.
8) Continue lolpartdeux.com & try to get at least $100 in adsense revenue from it. So far the below is my adsense earnings for it. Pathetic. But oh wells!:
Life is short. If I fail – I fail. But at least I try. I’m not getting any younger. I guess those are my goals for the next months. By writing this down I hope to make myself more accountable & that I can keep on pushing ahead. They all work towards the following ideas in mind:
3) FINANCIAL FREEDOM.
PS. I am so proud of my lil’ bro for having his white coat ceremony. He goin’ be a docta.
THERE IS NO ALWAYS, THERE’S JUST RIGHT NOW
There is just one life. And it doesn’t have to be spent doing mental dances with yourself. So you have to remove the factors that constantly promote your annoying, absolutely unbearable mental dances in order to go back to clarity. It doesn’t feel nice. But if you know what you are 100% not okay with… the decision becomes easy.
Just a note. Sorry for being so cryptic.
CHECK IT OUT EEYYY
To allllllll the readers out there who actually read my little blog … just want to say THANK YOU & update you guys on a few things.
Recently I co-launched a Youtube Celebrity Magazine/Website with Lynn and …. let’s just say I am watching way more youtube videos than I typically watch. And it’s disgusting. I stay up till 2 or 3am in the morning now..watching youtube videos. HOWEVER, I completely believe in the potential AWESOMENESS of Whoistubian.com and what it can provide. Because, I mean, IS there a central place for specifically youtube celebrity news/biographies? I think not, my friend!
We have over 59 likes on there already with only four articles so far! Can I get a hell yeah? Don’t hate. D-don’t hate!
I have also co-launched a website that provides an actual DIGITAL PRODUCT to help people list faster. So far we have 4 subscribers. That is four living breathing souls who provide monthly payments and as long as they are happy and are still using the product…they will continue to provide monthly payments until they no longer use it anymore. Which could be never! They might pass it down to their grandchildren if we are lucky. One can only dream. Two clients from the US. One from Japan. One from Hong Khong.
I am still worrying about 3500 car parts daily. But it’s okay. I will probably use car parts to make comedy skits… one day. Not today. Some day.
I know most of you will probably not give two pieces about what’s going on with my life but I wrote this to celebrate the tiny victories so when I look back on my own blog – I will have seen improvement (and not fond memories of a time long ago when I actually had the balls to go and do something).
It’s been over a year of doing whatever the hell I want to do… and I’ve semi-successfully built an automobile dismantling company, started an online magazine-like thing with my friend Lynn, launched an intangible product delivery website with Ron, learned how to rock climb walls that look godly high & managed not to drive a boyfriend too cray. These are TINY accomplishments I need to think about when I am bawling for no reason during T.O.M’s irrational visit. These are my little itty bitty tiny teeny bite-sized victories.
This is to counteract urges to stuff my face when I go on facebook and am SLAPPED by everyone’s wonderful life. The WANDURLUST/TRAVELING-non-stop vacationers, the YOUTUBE sensations, the ENGAGED & 2-seconds-later MARRIED, the BABY SHOWERED, the JUST-GOT-MATCHED doctor friends, the RICH & BLINGING ballers…
who here feels me? Can I get an amen, brotha?
My next how to post will be….. How to add Ads to your website & probably another random “Who Is..” person. To counteract this NON-how to post.
Intimacy and Closeness
The other day I got a spam email from an SEO telemarketer critiquing my site as being too “company centric”. Obviously he didn’t read anything on my site because… does a “company centric” blog site include a poem about sex on their site? I didn’t think so.
A good point was made though – that if you go to this site you have no idea where to start or what to read because the topics are so damn varied. Therefore, I’ve decided to make pages such as “NEWCOMER? START HERE” in the menu as well as ARCHIVE, PROJECTS, and CONTACT.
I’ve yet to make those pages.
I recently read Mark Manson’s post about 3 explanations why he thinks single people (who hate being single) are still single (and hating being single).
Let me break it down for you
1) Too high expectations of others while not really being hot shit themselves. Overweight woman expects to date a man with six pack abs for example.
2) Not respecting their health/emotional well being enough to work really hard to be an emotionally and physically healthy individual … and wondering why they are getting rejected for relationships.
3) Skills for intimacy are not developed yet. Which means they interpret every argument/fight as unbearable & can’t feel comfortable in getting close to someone because they don’t want to explore themselves on a deeper level and be okay with it.
I agree with all three points.
I think I’ve been through all of it and the one I struggle the most with is #3.
Why not #1 or #2? I changed myself for the better by hiring a therapist to allow me to see reality clearly when it came to #1 and #2. I got off my ass, exercised more, killed almost 80% of my expectations for people and what they can provide for me – instead I focused on becoming more giving without counting tabs & seeing where it goes when that happens.
#3 is tough. How can you tell your SO that the cause of your pain is them without hurting them in the process? And vice versa? It’s difficult. Even if it is delivered at calm times. I think it’s because to yourself – you are perfect (or close enough). You’ve figured out for the most part what makes you happy. And everything else outside of what makes you happy will mean… unhappiness. And unhappiness is not what you want to include in your life.
You don’t want to face or even fathom the idea that sometimes.. you are not a good person. Sometimes you are downright selfish. Sometimes you are rude and you act in a way which hurts others unintentionally or otherwise. There are these darker sides to you that resurface once in a while. Although they do not make up the majority of your traits and personality – it hurts to admit to yourself that you are a bad person (sometimes).
I think the more you view yourself as a really good decent honest loving person… and you stick to that ideal rather vehemently… the harder it will be for you to accept any other versions which compromises this image. And anyone who is close enough to see all sides of you will eventually point out the sides you basically ignored for the most part because god forbid you are not THAT guy/girl. Any conversation which would touch upon the subject that maybe you are selfish, mean, horrible sometimes would hurt. A lot.
And when your SO gives two shits about you, you’re going to hear the good and the bad. Getting 100% good is nearly impossible. Nothing will be 100% out of the box. And if you expect 100% you are suffering from not only #3 but #1 as well.
Being comfortable enough to explore yourself changes this mentality:
1) OWWW. You remind me sometimes that I am not perfect. That I am rude/mean/inconsiderate sometimes. That I am vengeful/passive aggressive/not 100%/not good enough sometimes. That is NOT okay! I hate this! I want OUT! I guess I am meant to be alone because then I can JUST BE HAPPY! I WAS HAPPY BEFORE THIS!
2) I hear what you are saying & how it hurts you. But I am secure about myself emotionally to know that I am not 100% evil/a bad person. I have good intentions and I see somehow that doesn’t translate into my actions. I understand things can be misinterpreted. It’s not the end of the world. I’ll see if I can approach it differently next time.
Mark says it is the difficult road to emotional stability. Because in order to be healthy mentally you have to work hard at your own humility almost everyday, you have to work hard to be physically healthy (Your self esteem will be greatly influenced if you are not physically healthy), you have to fight every damn battle of irrational thoughts or refrain from behavior that can be misinterpreted.
Does this mean you are losing yourself and your own happiness? I think the struggle is REAL, folks. But you are not losing yourself. You are gaining the ability to be close to someone and be okay with it. This is a very cool skill to have. Why not have the skill where you can be open, accept criticism come what may, still remain positive about life and love and proactively change yourself for the better? Sure, the process will be painful. Sure, you will probably have your ego crushed sometimes. We can either let life hurt us and give us the excuse to stay hurt or we can be okay with what life throws at us because whatever it is… whether it be people who think we are not 100%… whether it be customers who just hate our guts…. or whether it is a big fat LEMON….
you can still make lemonade.
I think making lemonade when life throws you lemons is UNINTENTIONALLY PROFOUND. It is profound because instead of running away from those pack of lemons, you are making something delicious out of them. Happiness then ties into something that’s already there & working with it versus discarding it for the next thing that pops up.
The saying could’ve been… when life gives you lemons… you … THROW THEM ON THE GROUND.. and go with THE BAG OF APPLES.
(But it’s not.)
A Conversation With An Investor
During the weekend I had the honor to go along rock climbing with Chris Francy (Owner of Edge Fitness and a registered investor). He actually pushed me to do my first lead at Red Rocks Canyon.
Below is a list of what investors are NOT looking for when it comes to pitching an idea:
1) Asking for too much money for broadly described purposes.
2) Asking for a salary.
What investors are more open to:
1) Asking for about enough or even less than what you really need. This perks their ears up.
2) If you get the attention of even one investor, you might get more from the same group. If you don’t have anyone on your side to begin with, you are basically out of luck.
This may be common sense to some but investors are still pitched ideas where these points are vastly ignored and it is unfortunate that the presenters will miss out on their chances of getting funded.
Life? Life is hectic because I purchased 3 cars within the span of 1 week (for the business). 2 of which were not intended to be purchased in such a short time frame. I am in the middle of training another worker. Life is also enjoyable because it is filled with doing whatever I want whenever I want. I am lucky to have my health, my family, and a boyfriend who understands me.
Talking To The Competition About Automobile Dismantling
Because I am the type of person to get the cell phone numbers of all my mail people – and am on a texting basis with them (Fedex, USPS), I am the type of person to walk around my work neighborhood to have small talk with the local business owners.. AND.. I am also the type of person to text the CEO and owners of my competition to ask them.. what’s up?
I found out they were/are incredibly more die hard than I am. Granted, I am a female in a male dominated industry. And I don’t have partners.
But because of that it makes me want to become just as die hard (even though I believe I’ve almost killed myself starting this business). So I dropped out of my Intro To Auto class I’ve been taking at the nearby community college in order to finish up my goals that I have been postponing due to trying to figure this life out. Dropping out of a class when I am getting an A was not that hard to do.
I am officially a “drop out”. HA!
One CEO and his Co-founder worked nonstop, 10 hour days, for a year. Didn’t hire out so they profited faster.
Me? Outsourced almost everything I could. Now things run without my micro-managing involvement. But at the capacity that it can be? No. At a comfortable capacity where my sanity still remains with me? Yes.
I am doing more outdoor activities. I am sleeping in later. I am feeling more relaxed. Life is less… scary.
At the pit of my stomach I feel like I can do so much more.
I used to look down upon businesses that didn’t want to grow when they can do so much more. But it seems like at the expense of their own happiness, most people won’t want to do “so much more”. Most business owners just want to be happy. Make enough money to live, have enough freedom to be in control of their own schedules, and spend life as stress-free as possible.
My perspective on businesses and ownership and running businesses is changing. Not because of anything life-changing. Just that I want to choose a more free life over one where I have to suffer to be rich.
My goals for the end of the next 6 months:
1) Keep on automating my business so no one depends on me for anything.
2) Get my internet business at least launched and running (who cares the number of subscribers, I just need the infrastructure set up).
3) Push sales to 12K/month.
4) Become a better outdoor rock climber.
5) Transition the name change successfully. Launch a large SEO effort.
6) Answer more questions, ask more questions, be more involved in online communities.
7) Genuinely care more.
I like writing random posts.
MY BOOK KEEPER IN PAKISTAN TEACHES ME ABOUT WEED
This is the type of conversations I have with my book keeper on a Thursday afternoon. Of course.
J (Book keeper): *Sends me a link regarding an article about weed*
you will not believe that this is growing in my back yard ..
me: it is?
you are growing weed?
it is illegal here
do you smoke it?
me: well, you can smoke it
J: dont know how to .. 😛
me: are you sure it is growing in your backyard?
J: i might have pic, wait let me check
me: okay. email me a pic
J: some people drink it but i dont think any one smoke it around here …
me: WHAT THE HECK. HAHAHAAHAH!
me: no one drinks it here
they cook the oil into food
or smoke it
J: i think its a different kind ..
tell me if its smoke able .. 😛
at any point
do you see tiny teeny
J: no, it never go like that ..
me: LOL! then it isn’t the right kind
J: some of my friends smoke weed but it come in black rubber type form ..
J: BTW where were you born .. ?
weed never comes in a black rubber type form
THIS IS CRACKING ME UP J!
J: i have seen nuggets of that stuff also,
me: you have seen it?
where? in your backyard?
J: nope some people make them to eat or troll some one..
me: maybe you are confusing weed with something else
J: it might be different type but it is same stuff .. http://en.wikip
this the stuff used here..
its same thing but processes
J: Good for you..
Looks like this:
So I did not know this. Now I know. And now YOU know.
Almost Breaking Up Again, So What’s The Point?
I was having a conversation with a friend today about an “almost break up” moment I had with my boyfriend and she said, “Hey! Me too!”. I inquired what was her reasoning and she explained that it has to do with different communication styles. Both of our boyfriends are fairly inexperienced with relationships. She confessed she is inexperienced as well. And come to think of it, even though I was in a long term relationship at one point… I am also fairly inexperienced.
What have we learned, really? Unless something forces us to drastically change, we just carry the mistakes of the past into our current relationships and blame it on each other if we call it quits.
The meshing of two people with two completely separate lifestyles is a recipe that needs a LOT of compromising to work. I don’t know of anyone who likes carrying around compromises in their back pockets.
Sometimes I get caught in the “now”. Sometimes I am very selfish. And when that happens I don’t see the whole forest when I am stuck amongst the bristles of a leaf barren tree. And sometimes HE is too. No one’s perfect! Maybe that metaphor was a bit too much.
By being caught in the moment – I amplify the importance of decisions and I amplify my emotional sensitivity to a point where words will hurt (hard). When things are amplified and urgent, this could create stress and a heavy feeling on everyone involved.
There just needs to be a reminder that hey – I have the rest of my life to figure this out. What’s the hurry? If there is a mixture of kindness, patience, and willingness to be emotionally open – really – there is no reason to act with haste.
That is one life lesson I’ve learned (among others) about relationships thus far. That there is time to learn and grow. There is time for trust to be built. There is always time for that proof to bloom in anyone’s perspective of who you are… You can decide to be urgent if it is biologically healthy for you to do so. Otherwise, there is always time.
Honestly, you can be free and single at any point in life. Nothing will stop this from happening if you want it to happen. No marriage certificate, no promise ring, no title… nothing. So the decision to go back to a status quo might sometimes be what you need.
However – on the other hand… the risk you are taking by having someone in your life to act like your sounding board, to open your eyes on how you are when you are so damn close to another human being (different from family and friends), to give you a healthy reflection of how you really come off… and to care deeply enough to be honest with you about it because there is a vested interest in the betterment of yourself as a person… is worth the whole thing.
All of it.
The entire risk of a relationship.
And that’s the point of a relationship (to me).
So I guess I am pretty damn oblivious to a lot of things.
On a separate note, here is a random incomplete poem I wrote purely for entertainment purposes while I was bored at the warehouse:
Plunging, suddenly I am hurling towards
More idle time, racking my brain for more stymie rhymes
Steering my irises through window panes
Letting these surroundings fast forward I will choose
To be fashionably late again
I am simply mopping to cope with coming down from
Another adrenaline high
I am also playing pretend to infuse these sometimes provincial moments
With exciting lies
I will act like I am hypnotized
I will fake it till I make it as I compromise
Oh don’t bother coming down from your thrones
To join me here weeping
Where I will squeeze tears as a sport because it is better than
Because I am feeling silly, asian, and duck-faced: