How To Still Learn

1) By not quitting.

THE END!

So today I want to discuss several things.  All the things I wrote about earlier… I moved forward in that direction but ended up not doing much of it.  Probably 20% was done.

I tried not buying any cars for this month (October) and decided to “coast”… however.. sales dropped from 11K to 7.5K.

That’s what I get when I try to “coast” an automobile dismantling company.

With less to do – I sometimes just spend the whole day reading blogs.

This is not productive.

The lesson learned here is always try new things and you will figure out what works and what doesn’t.

What I discovered in my laziness is that spending MORE money by buying cars will create waaaaaay more sales than the savings I get by not purchasing more cars for that particular month.  Sure, I save… $1K by not buying another car.  I just lose $3K in return.  If I did spend that $1K-$2K buying/dismantling that car… I would receive back 4-5K more that month.

THIS IS LIFE.  A constant, continual, learning experience.

Reed told me posting pictures of my feet might be disgusting.  Who cares, I’m posting it below:

Keepin' it real with the cotton balls.

Keepin’ it real with the cotton balls.  Look!  Halloween themed, yay!

I went to get a pedicure for the first time in my ENTIRE LIFE with my gal pal Val.  It felt good, but for some reason I didn’t feel the necessity of it.  I didn’t get this overwhelming itch some females have for this ritual of having to be served by hand and feet from another human being and then painted on for several hours as they gossip about you in a foreign language behind your back.

Maybe I am too manly.  The urge for massages, for manicures, pedicures, etc… does not enter my mind.  Maybe it comes as a more evolved form of “taking care of yourself” and I’m not there yet.  Who knows.  All I know is.. it cost me $37 for 10 rounded tips to be painted another color from the natural color of nude/cracked calloused.  Cracked Calloused is a new color, by the way.

So.. couple of things I’ve started doing this month:

I started a podcast.  So far it has two episodes.

I am teaming up with an SEO expert to write an eBook which I hope I will publish within this MILLENNIAL.  I tried writing an eBook of my own and it has been 4 years.  It is unpublished, gathering pixelated dust.  And I will publish THIS ebook with errors, flaws and all.  Why?  Because it’s better than an unpublished NOTHING while I seek aimlessly for a perfection that will never come.

I sic’ed my team of developer/designer duo on automating superfastlistings.com so that once you sign up, you will automatically get an email detailing you on what to do and what information to input.  After information is inputed then stage 2 is commenced.  Before that I used to personally send out every welcome email (a copy and paste procedure) that was not necessary but since I was too busy to delegate this task out – it was never done.  TILL NOW.  They have yet to finish.  I hope to have it wrapped up by the end of this week.

I am going to revamp my mailing list once and for all.

I started meal prepping for the week and I am getting better at it.  Meal prepping is great!

Below are more pictures from my night out with my gal pal Val.  I ordered all the sushi.  Valerie is a vegetarian.  I think I had 7 plates to her 1.

LESSONS BE DAMNED:

1) I best be buyin’ them cars or else I will be losin’ ’em sales!

2) I do not work well ALONE.  In whatever capacity.  I need people because with people I actually push myself harder.

3) Posts/Podcasts/Listings/Company stuff/Managing developers/Ebook writing/etc. = all are lumped into a massive workload.  When sometimes I prefer just sitting by myself watching to stand up comedy and reading blogs at my leisure the entire day.  The only way to do stuff is to do it and get’er done. (I don’t know why I chose this particular vernacular right now with all the shortened words…. but it’s fun to me at the moment.  Please don’t rain on my PARADE!).

4) For my birthday (I just turned 28 years young) I chose to scale a 770 foot wall of rock.  And it was massively fun.  I recently spoke to a friend, just catching up on life (because that’s what friends do sometimes when it’s around your birthday and they glance your way since they received  some facebook notification)… this was how the convo went:

Friend: “How’s life Kim?”

Me: “Good.”

Friend: “I’ve been so busy.  I work 3 jobs and 16 hour work days.”

Me: “So far I am trying to run 2 businesses but I work around 20 hours of real work a week. I sometimes spend all day reading blogs.”

Friend: “I barely have time to date but when I do I can’t devote any time to these women who want my attention.”

Me:”I just recently climbed a 700 foot wall in Nevada & I now have some time to make room for more of a relationship.”

Friend:”Wow, our lives are so opposite.”

I want to say yes to more life experiences at the same time I want to continue building businesses.  I want to work really hard but I want to spend all day lying on a couch in my warehouse.  Some friends have figured it out and I am envious because sometimes I find myself questioning life way too much.

I am not afraid to want random opposite things and trying out a bunch of different stuff.  I’m not afraid to posting pictures of my feet on the internet.  I’m not afraid to fail.  And that is how I still learn.

 

Enjoy the pictures below.

Our only picture together - and it's blurry.

Our only picture together – and it’s blurry.

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Sushi

SAKEEEEE

 

All my dishes were served before Val got her VEGETARIAN roll (which is barely called food.)

All my dishes were served before Val got her VEGETARIAN roll (which is barely called food.)

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What have you learned about life so far

My friend, Hango, AKA, BOB, aka Hangalo, aka Hang… asked me to write a post for her.

Post topic: What are 5 things you have learned about life so far?

It has been a week and I told her I could only think of 1 or 2 or 3-ish at the most.

One is that failure is not the worst thing ever and exploring the weird and the interesting and the strangely taboo… is okay!  That is why I have a therapist.  I have insurance, it affords me a therapist, why not?  Mental health is important just as much as physical health – hence my gym membership.

To keep her identity somewhat private I will name her V.  V told me something very interesting in our last session.  And that is = most working relationships are 50/50.

I was completely oblivious to the fact that having someone pay for you, completely, when you can afford whatever yourself, is …. not right after the dating phase is over.

I shit you not I expected the relationship road ahead of me to be paved by a very nice, cushioned, money-bricked road.

Because I can deliver.  Crazy sex? Check.  A fun experience with another human being? Check. Whatever you want? Maybe check.

Obviously though, after it is no longer just dating and it becomes a relationship, things change.

The concept of paying for a date is still foreign to me.  I know, where have I been living?  Under ex boyfriends who have deluded me into thinking this was okay.  Figuratively, of course!

So the idea of paying… for dates…. is cringeworthy.    My therapist told me healthy and long lasting relationships REQUIRE me to start paying to show appreciation.

I have gotten this far along in my life to not pay during dates.  It’s time to give back?  In a relationship?  If I don’t want my man to feel under-appreciated?  Sure.

Not to say I am not generous.  I am generous in business.  I am generous with random strangers.  The concept of paying for a date does not fit in my paradigm of generosity but THIS IS LIFE!

I can hold my own and have no need for anyone to take care of me.  But what is wrong in wanting it?  Even if I make millions, I still want the guy to pay for everything. EVERYTHING.  I have been schooled that this is the wrong way to go about it.

Ahem.  So that is 1 or 2 life lessons I have learned so far.

Another lesson is….

The more time I have for myself or to be idle, the more I question everything about life.  So it’s best to keep busy and keep productive than to let random questions about life stop me from actually doing life because CONTEMPLATIONS and imaginary conversations are actually nothing when it comes down to it.

And sometimes it can be confused with “planning”, but really, it is just stalling.

If I want to do something, I should just do it.  Pick up a paper, start filling out forms.  Want to exercise?  Join the gym this second (online).  Don’t wait for that Costco discount.  You might go to Costco and decide to buy 10 pies instead of buying the gym membership.  Don’t deliberate.  Life put on pause is not worth it.  You think the outcome will be better if you wait for things to be different before you make the leap?  Unless you need time to save up money for something – it is not worth the wait.

I think these three things should suffice my friend’s bloodthirsty hunger for me to write this post.

You are welcome!

 

 


The Battle For Sanity

I want to comment on this common female struggle: the battle for sanity.  Given how we are all afflicted by the tides of various hormones not to mention the annoying obstructions to these tides randomly provided by pills, implants, and insertions all for the purpose of controlling birth – I see it fit to voice my observation after hearing about the relationship woes and confusion this struggle brings.

Men?  For the most part they do not need to fight this battle for sanity.  In relationships I have observed that they are usually calm.

So to maintain the semblance of a healthy relationship I’ve discovered that this battle must be fought and won on a monthly basis.  90% of the battle is internal and won with the aid of releases in whatever form they may be.  But left unchecked and especially left underestimated, just rolling over and giving in to the ultimate female excuse to be emotionally volatile will lead to disaster.

Even if it is through a pained grimace to mask the true nature of your maleficent disposition – it still must be done.  Maintaining any long term interpersonal interaction involves the maturity to bite your tongue and try to resolve everything with the coaxing sweetness of something honest yet silver all at the same time.

Because even if you have your demands and your needs – voicing dissatisfaction towards any individual reduces their ego and a person with an uncomfortable ego tends to be less open to promoting your personal happiness.

It is wise then to not get careless with vocal deliveries.  That created moments of unease leaves a sour uncompromising aftertaste for everyone involved.  That happiness is really about letting go of the things that do not matter all too much.  Some recent turn of events and my mail lady (married 42 years) refreshed me of this truth because that is how you consistently win your battles for sanity.

In other news… an update on my current situation.  Sales, without any real money spent on marketing/advertising, have gotten comfortable enough for me to provide for all my expenses thus far.  I am past my 10th car and I am past being uncertain about the future.  I am not as gung ho as I would like to be but that’s only because I prioritize having a life over not having one.  I’ve learned to let go of a lot of stresses even though stress is an inevitable part of the daily madness.

To keep my sanity for the past couple of months I galavanted in the following activities:

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What Does It Mean When You Require More Attention

Credit to: GETGOODGAME.COM

I wanted to write about my take on what people consider “neediness” they don’t want/need to deal with.  Why? Because it is a topic which is bothering me as of late.

At the beginning of a relationship, if it is the ones that start post-college, let’s face it – it probably is very sexual.

And when people meet up for these “dates” which are really = eating and waiting to have intercourse periods, ESPECIALLY when two people are casually dating and before exclusivity is declared….. you are not friends.  Sorry.  You are CFWBs.

CFWBs = CIVIL Friends With Benefits.  Because you are not outright declaring you are using each other for sex/company since you don’t even know much about the other person.  But basically that is what it is.  TRUST.

This is compared to DFWBs = DECLARED Friends with Benefits.  DFWBs are either best buddies who share a mutual love for sex and consistently sabotaging any real romantic relationship with their attempted dates OR they share a very cold relationship where hitting it and quitting it is the norm… still consistently sabotaging any real romantic relationship with their attempted dates.

When CFWBs become GF/BFs there is a shift in the paradigm.  Both have agreed that they can have great sex and now are moving on towards other things…. like getting to know each other.  Once great sex is almost a guaranty – you can commence with the transition between SEX MOSTLY to a SEX + Sprinkles of Romance relationship.

Here is where things tend to get STICKY.

ONE OF YOU WILL HAVE A NEED TO RECEIVE MORE ATTENTION.  OR BOTH!

Because a transition from CFWBs –> GF/BF will not be a happy one unless SOMETHING is realized.  That something is the fact that a yearning for friendship/love has begun.  Improper response: “Hey, I was used to only responding to you once a week – what happened? WHY ARE YOU SO MUCH MORE NEEDY?”  Proper response: “Oh, so you need me to do that to make you happy?  Alrighty then!  Let’s get this show on the ROAD.”

When something CLICKS in your mind and you want more attention/texting/calling/initiation during a period where there is USUALLY RADIO SILENCE…… you, my friend, are only exercising your right for love.

Think about it.  You are given love freely from your parents.  You are given love freely from friends – OF COURSE they don’t mind your need to share your thoughts.  There is no such thing as an overload (unless that person is naturally annoying by a unanimous vote).  You start to want the friendship/love that comes freely with others in your life – from your recently acquired significant other.

You are normal.

There are MANY ways this scenario can turn out:

1) They react with insecurity/fear for their own freedom thinking it is mostly about them and not really about your yearning to be fulfilled emotionally (because you got the physical shit DOWN)… then they are not your cup of tea.  Spit it out.  Throw away the  freakin’ cup.  Life is short.  There is no need to keep on sipping that bitter nasty cup of tea when you can have the greatest CHAI TEA you’ve ever tasted in your LIFE if you simply moved on.

2)  They react with trying to increase attention but naturally they suck at it because they are not used to it.  Know yourself to know how much longer you can tolerate it.  However, you will only continue to struggle with it which might lead to fights and could otherwise mess up an okay ending to a short lived story.  No one needs to get mauled in this process.  It was a good run – carry on.  Everyone can move on happy.

3) They react by giving you the attention you need in DROVES.   Like a train that suddenly started and will move NONSTOP.  Like a double rainbow that never stops shinning – providing happiness forever.  You are deliriously happy.  You both move forward in delirious happiness.  Because they realize it’s not about THEM when it comes to asking for more attention, it’s about YOU.  And making YOU happy is what matters.

I might have exaggerated on certain parts of this description.  But you get the gist of what I am saying.

*This is to exclude all behaviors of emotional manipulation.  Once emotional manipulation comes into play – this whole explanation is moot.*

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