Goals for 2015 – Number 1: To remove myself completely.

You got me sippin’ on something
I can’t compare to nothing
I’ve ever known, I’m hoping
That after this fever I’ll survive
I know I’m acting a bit crazy
Strung out, a little bit hazy
Hand over heart, I’m praying
That I’m gonna make it out alive.

 

I love the melody of that song.  Not so much the melancholic meaning of it all.

A lot has happened since about a month ago.  I haven’t posted anything for January and before the month is over I told myself I’d get something up at least.

I feel like I am eliminating most distractions out of my life and just mainly focusing on two things at the moment.  That is namely rebranding my old site to AUTOPARTS LAB.  I started the social media accounts for AUTO PARTS LAB and I’m positioning myself to switch my entire eBay store over to the new name.  I was wondering why for the longest time I’ve been putting off marketing my old site in any manner and that’s because I’m a stickler with names.

AUTO PARTS LAB will be hip and funny and interesting once it is launched.  I already had my developers set up the site, a few virtual assistants are working on the social media accounts, and things are moving along.  For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about it’s a company I started a little over a year and a half ago.  It went from garnering less than 1K in sales a month to now 10-11K steadily at minimal commitment.  This is with no social marketing.

I’m going at this full force so I’m hoping to push sales to 20K/month within the next four months [this might be a bit of a reach].  My competitors might be laughing at me on how slow I’m growing this company… but I go at my own random pace.

Super Fast Listings  was a company I co-founded with Ron and we recently garnered another subscriber to that business.  Making a total of 8 paying subscribers if no one cancels.  It is a software/excel sheet available for download.

We launched I believe July of 2014.  This was 2014 sales.I am also by default still improving my rock climbing abilities and taking it 1 week at a time.

I’m going to tackle trying to make money online and so far I have two areas that are semi-working for me.  Am I making real money?  No, I’m not.  Every cent I earn goes back into the companies.  So that’s why this is not enough until at least another 6-8 months of effort channeled into pulling away from the business.

I recently spoke to the CEO of a competitor and after 5 years of work he is starting over from scratch again – he can afford his expensive toys of course (by now) but he fired everyone and had to start from scratch – still chugging away at the daily grind.

I don’t want to be in that same position.  Many have reached freedom one way or the other.  Many do not want freedom because they are happy with what they have.  Many chose a limited freedom.  I want to walk towards a  type of freedom that is generous on my wallet and easy on the soul.  In documenting my efforts maybe it’ll help someone realize their own desires to be free as well.  Chris Ducker’s work is going to help.

I wish I quit school while in college and started companies a long time ago.  The reason I did not is because of my parents’ completely traditional almost crippling attitude of choosing the safe route – “BE A DOCTOR! BE A PHARMACIST!” or just chalk yourself up to being a complete failure.  The other reason is I was a too afraid to go out on my own and just do it.

I am comfortable not becoming a doctor or pharmacist because while I was studying for those classes and taking those tests … none of it made me happy.  I imagined my future and just dreaded all of it.  This made me change my mind a dozen times throughout college and take classes that were a waste of my time.  It was not my calling but I kept going at it hoping that someday a light bulb will go off in my head and a warm glow starts resonating in my heart for being what my parents wanted me to be.

Well SCREW all of that.

 

I have my own private online journals as well as my physical journals which I use to document my failures or successes (or emotional outbursts/breakdowns).  The reason why this is public and I’m not afraid to put myself out there is because ALTHOUGH I am not yet truly successful, I have talked to many friends who have tried again and again to make some type of living outside of their 9 to 5 job without a pint of success.

Can I help you now?  To a very small capacity in that maybe I can show my direct friends what is possible.  In 6-8 months I’m hoping to be able to actually help because by then I’ll have everything set up more correctly [assuming best case scenario].

Goals for 2015:

1) Put in all the steps enough to truly remove myself from my main business.

2) Help others get started (If they want to).

3) Start a podcast

4) Write an ebook.

It is quite boring and almost depressing to merely survive as I go about building this business and other businesses.  It was so depressing at some points that I even hired a therapist to help me with my personal as well as professional life.  I even went and hired a personal trainer to help me cope with how my body was taking everything (different city, different weather, forever-alone feeling).  I want to feel grateful and surrounded even in the solitude of a job where I am 99% on my own.  Maybe one way to get there is to help others realize… yes.. you can do this too.  Yes, my motive is very selfish.  I am tired of feeling alone.  I always tell others, “It’s not rocket science! You can do it too. Easy,” but I don’t provide any tools for them to start and realistically I just don’t have to energy to devote in order to truly bring them massive success.

I’ll only share what works for me.  There is plenty of free information about creating money somehow online, many of them might be scams or gimmicks and none of those will apply.

THE POINT IS (If you think everything was TL;DR):

1) I don’t know how to make MASSIVE amounts online because I have implemented only 10% of what I know so far and I’ve yet to execute on the 90% that is advised of me to do.  But I’ve started and I’ve earned TINY small successes which are real.  None of it was earned by tricking anyone or by being gimmicky.

2) I want to stop feeling alone.  So I’m going to share pretty much everything to see if it helps anyone and EVENTUALLY when I am more on my feet – I will be able to genuinely help without feeling guilty of the half-assed nature of it all.  And by helping maybe I’ll feel a lot less alone.

3) To never. stop. moving.  To continuously strive to be more healthy physically, mentally and spiritually (I bought this device to help me meditate).

I will choose to stick to an update schedule.  

I will update EVERY week on WEDNESDAYS.

 

I guess that’s all.  If you like to join this journey with me and have posts delivered to your email… sign up below:


How To Still Learn

1) By not quitting.

THE END!

So today I want to discuss several things.  All the things I wrote about earlier… I moved forward in that direction but ended up not doing much of it.  Probably 20% was done.

I tried not buying any cars for this month (October) and decided to “coast”… however.. sales dropped from 11K to 7.5K.

That’s what I get when I try to “coast” an automobile dismantling company.

With less to do – I sometimes just spend the whole day reading blogs.

This is not productive.

The lesson learned here is always try new things and you will figure out what works and what doesn’t.

What I discovered in my laziness is that spending MORE money by buying cars will create waaaaaay more sales than the savings I get by not purchasing more cars for that particular month.  Sure, I save… $1K by not buying another car.  I just lose $3K in return.  If I did spend that $1K-$2K buying/dismantling that car… I would receive back 4-5K more that month.

THIS IS LIFE.  A constant, continual, learning experience.

Reed told me posting pictures of my feet might be disgusting.  Who cares, I’m posting it below:

Keepin' it real with the cotton balls.

Keepin’ it real with the cotton balls.  Look!  Halloween themed, yay!

I went to get a pedicure for the first time in my ENTIRE LIFE with my gal pal Val.  It felt good, but for some reason I didn’t feel the necessity of it.  I didn’t get this overwhelming itch some females have for this ritual of having to be served by hand and feet from another human being and then painted on for several hours as they gossip about you in a foreign language behind your back.

Maybe I am too manly.  The urge for massages, for manicures, pedicures, etc… does not enter my mind.  Maybe it comes as a more evolved form of “taking care of yourself” and I’m not there yet.  Who knows.  All I know is.. it cost me $37 for 10 rounded tips to be painted another color from the natural color of nude/cracked calloused.  Cracked Calloused is a new color, by the way.

So.. couple of things I’ve started doing this month:

I started a podcast.  So far it has two episodes.

I am teaming up with an SEO expert to write an eBook which I hope I will publish within this MILLENNIAL.  I tried writing an eBook of my own and it has been 4 years.  It is unpublished, gathering pixelated dust.  And I will publish THIS ebook with errors, flaws and all.  Why?  Because it’s better than an unpublished NOTHING while I seek aimlessly for a perfection that will never come.

I sic’ed my team of developer/designer duo on automating superfastlistings.com so that once you sign up, you will automatically get an email detailing you on what to do and what information to input.  After information is inputed then stage 2 is commenced.  Before that I used to personally send out every welcome email (a copy and paste procedure) that was not necessary but since I was too busy to delegate this task out – it was never done.  TILL NOW.  They have yet to finish.  I hope to have it wrapped up by the end of this week.

I am going to revamp my mailing list once and for all.

I started meal prepping for the week and I am getting better at it.  Meal prepping is great!

Below are more pictures from my night out with my gal pal Val.  I ordered all the sushi.  Valerie is a vegetarian.  I think I had 7 plates to her 1.

LESSONS BE DAMNED:

1) I best be buyin’ them cars or else I will be losin’ ’em sales!

2) I do not work well ALONE.  In whatever capacity.  I need people because with people I actually push myself harder.

3) Posts/Podcasts/Listings/Company stuff/Managing developers/Ebook writing/etc. = all are lumped into a massive workload.  When sometimes I prefer just sitting by myself watching to stand up comedy and reading blogs at my leisure the entire day.  The only way to do stuff is to do it and get’er done. (I don’t know why I chose this particular vernacular right now with all the shortened words…. but it’s fun to me at the moment.  Please don’t rain on my PARADE!).

4) For my birthday (I just turned 28 years young) I chose to scale a 770 foot wall of rock.  And it was massively fun.  I recently spoke to a friend, just catching up on life (because that’s what friends do sometimes when it’s around your birthday and they glance your way since they received  some facebook notification)… this was how the convo went:

Friend: “How’s life Kim?”

Me: “Good.”

Friend: “I’ve been so busy.  I work 3 jobs and 16 hour work days.”

Me: “So far I am trying to run 2 businesses but I work around 20 hours of real work a week. I sometimes spend all day reading blogs.”

Friend: “I barely have time to date but when I do I can’t devote any time to these women who want my attention.”

Me:”I just recently climbed a 700 foot wall in Nevada & I now have some time to make room for more of a relationship.”

Friend:”Wow, our lives are so opposite.”

I want to say yes to more life experiences at the same time I want to continue building businesses.  I want to work really hard but I want to spend all day lying on a couch in my warehouse.  Some friends have figured it out and I am envious because sometimes I find myself questioning life way too much.

I am not afraid to want random opposite things and trying out a bunch of different stuff.  I’m not afraid to posting pictures of my feet on the internet.  I’m not afraid to fail.  And that is how I still learn.

 

Enjoy the pictures below.

Our only picture together - and it's blurry.

Our only picture together – and it’s blurry.

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Sushi

SAKEEEEE

 

All my dishes were served before Val got her VEGETARIAN roll (which is barely called food.)

All my dishes were served before Val got her VEGETARIAN roll (which is barely called food.)

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Life is Good

The simple goals I’ve made for myself eventually gets done & I want to write a post to celebrate.

1) Restarted my webcomic site. –> I will add this post to it!

2) Point was deleted.

3) Get more than 11K in sales/month for my auto parts company. –> It took a TON of work. 1.5 years of effort. But I did it!

4) Hire a virtual assistant. –> He is very helpful and an extremely fast worker.

5) Started a youtube biography site. –> We have over 71 likes on Facebook.  Now it’s mostly run by my co-founder Lynn.  We recently added another writer to the group.  Her name is Liza.  Say Hello.

6) Get over 500+ connections on linkedin. –> 557 and counting!  I know. I need to update my profile. I will soon.

7) Push the worth of web of this blog site to over $2000 –> Did it!  That means:

476 visitors / day

(based on Alexa Rank below)
14,280 visitors / month
171,360 visitors / year
My Worth

My Worth

8) Be more happy with myself, hang out with more friends, & exercise more –> I have membership to Hanger 18 and I have been climbing like a gym monkey!  I am making time more for friends as well.  I also recently got a Mega Jul, Gri gri, Quick Lok carabiner, Quickdraw set of 5, my own chalkbag (instead of borrowing from my boyfriend all the time), my own purple harness, and a really cool headlamp.  Yeaaaaahhhhh.

9) AND LAST BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY = Prioritize what’s important. –> Listening to people more and put more effort into genuinely appreciating the friendships and relationships I have.

FUTURE SIMPLE GOALS

1) Recognize/appreciate/learn how to trust and love more.

2) Implement the marketing side of ***censored site*** to the max & fix all broken links.  It’s amazing we have subscribers when 90% of the links on our website are BROKEN.  You heard me folks.  The links lead nowhere.  Privacy policy?  Nowhere.  FAQ? Nowhere.  Home? HOME.  Can you make a business model work with a website that barely functions? Yes.  But is it the best it can be? NO.  We have a great product.  We just need to… sell it better.

  • Fix all broken links.

  • Build a thriving forum.

  • Sign up to Clickbank to create an affiliate marketing avenue.

  • Hire someone to do marketing & do SEO for the company.

  • Get monthly subscription to be $500/month.  It is a very modest goal so it is within our reach.

  • Get over 100 Subscribers to our newsletter. Right now we have 69 subscribers.

3) Bless Lynn’s heart.  I shut down sometimes when life gets too much but she is patient with me & lets me be until I can recover and return.

  • Get rid of broken components on whoistubian.com

  • Implement and earn at least $1 in affiliate link marketing on whoistubian.com

  • Write more blogs!

  • Earn at least $1 in adsense revenue.

4) Push my auto parts company to 20K in sales/month.  [This will hopefully not be that difficult.]

5) Learn how to aid climb so I can do big walls or large walls & in general become a stronger climber and a more athletic individual so I can conquer life – better.

6) Start Auto Parts Lab.  It is another auto dismantling company but this time it will be run by more than just 1 person.  I will have two co-founders.  This is my first stab at trying to franchise but not really franchising.  Goal is to break even for the first month.

7) Work on kimpossibledang.com as a blog.

  • Start a podcast.  Never tried it before but thought about it for awhile.

  • Get worth of web to $3000.

  • Reach at least 30 email subscribers. Right now I have 18.

  • Have more affiliate links.

8) Continue lolpartdeux.com & try to get at least $100 in adsense revenue from it.  So far the below is my adsense earnings for it. Pathetic.  But oh wells!:

adsense

adsense

 

Life is short. If I fail – I fail.  But at least I try.  I’m not getting any younger.  I guess those are my goals for the next months.  By writing this down I hope to make myself more accountable & that I can keep on pushing ahead.  They all work towards the following ideas in mind:

1) HAPPINESS.

2) APPRECIATION/SELFLESSNESS/LOVE.

3) FINANCIAL FREEDOM.

 

PS. I am so proud of my lil’ bro for having his white coat ceremony. He goin’ be a docta.


 Talking To The Competition About Automobile Dismantling

Because I am the type of person to get the cell phone numbers of all my mail people – and am on a texting basis with them (Fedex, USPS), I am the type of person to walk around my work neighborhood to have small talk with the local business owners.. AND.. I am also the type of person to text the CEO and owners of my competition to ask them.. what’s up?

I found out they were/are incredibly more die hard than I am.  Granted, I am a female in a male dominated industry.  And I don’t have partners.

But because of that it makes me want to become just as die hard (even though I believe I’ve almost killed myself starting this business).  So I dropped out of my Intro To Auto class I’ve been taking at the nearby community college in order to finish up my goals that I have been postponing due to trying to figure this life out.  Dropping out of a class when I am getting an A was not that hard to do.

I am officially a “drop out”. HA!

One CEO and his Co-founder worked nonstop, 10 hour days, for a year.  Didn’t hire out so they profited faster.

Me?  Outsourced almost everything I could.  Now things run without my micro-managing involvement.  But at the capacity that it can be?  No.  At a comfortable capacity where my sanity still remains with me?  Yes.

I am doing more outdoor activities.  I am sleeping in later.  I am feeling more relaxed.  Life is less… scary.

At the pit of my stomach I feel like I can do so much more.

I used to look down upon businesses that didn’t want to grow when they can do so much more.  But it seems like at the expense of their own happiness, most people won’t want to do “so much more”.  Most business owners just want to be happy.  Make enough money to live, have enough freedom to be in control of their own schedules, and spend life as stress-free as possible.

My perspective on businesses and ownership and running businesses is changing.  Not because of anything life-changing.  Just that I want to choose a more free life over one where I have to suffer to be rich.

My goals for the end of the next 6 months:

1) Keep on automating my business so no one depends on me for anything.

2) Get my internet business at least launched and running (who cares the number of subscribers, I just need the infrastructure set up).

3) Push sales to 12K/month.

4) Become a better outdoor rock climber.

5) Transition the name change successfully.  Launch a large SEO effort.

6) Answer more questions, ask more questions, be more involved in online communities.

7) Genuinely care more.

 

I like writing random posts.

Riverside Rock Quarry

Riverside Rock Quarry


MY BOOK KEEPER IN PAKISTAN TEACHES ME ABOUT WEED

This is the type of conversations I have with my book keeper on a Thursday afternoon. Of course. 

J (Book keeper): *Sends me a link regarding an article about weed*
you will not believe that this is growing in my back yard ..

me: it is?
you are growing weed?
HAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!
it is illegal here
in california
do you smoke it?

J: nope

me: well, you can smoke it

J: dont know how to .. 😛

me: are you sure it is growing in your backyard?

J: i might have pic, wait let me check

me: okay.  email me a pic

 J: some people drink it but i dont think any one smoke it around here …

 me: WHAT THE HECK.  HAHAHAAHAH!

 me: no one drinks it here
they cook the oil into food
or smoke it
that’s it

J: i think its a different kind ..

me: yeah

J:

Plants

Is this Weed?

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tell me if its smoke able .. 😛

me: hmmmm
at any point
do you see tiny teeny
stuff like

Weed Bud

This looks like a small creature.  Almost.

J: no, it never go like that ..

me: LOL!  then it isn’t the right kind

J: some of my friends smoke weed but it come in black rubber type form ..

J: BTW where were you born .. ?

me: vietnam
weed never comes in a black rubber type form
HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!
THIS IS CRACKING ME UP J!

J:  i have seen nuggets of that stuff also,

me: you have seen it?
where? in your backyard?

J: nope some people make them to eat or troll some one..

me: maybe you are confusing weed with something else
HAHAH

J: it might be different type but it is same stuff ..  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cannabis_(drug)

me: yeah

this the stuff used here..

its same thing but processes

me: OH!!! wow
i did not know this
J: processed#
J: i dont think you even smoke  cigarettes
me: i don’t smoke anything (This is a half truth.)

J: Good for you..

So …. From Wiki: Charas is the name given to a hashish form of cannabis which is handmade in IndiaNepalPakistan and Jamaica. It is made from the resin of the cannabis plant (Cannabis sativa or Cannabis indica). The plant grows wild throughout Northern India along the stretch of the Himalayas (its putative origin) and is an important cash crop for the local people although the cultivation is illegal in India.

Looks like this:

Weed of Pakistan

BALLS AND STICKS.  THIS ISN’T PHALLIC AT ALL.

So I did not know this.  Now I know.  And now YOU know.



Almost Breaking Up Again, So What’s The Point?

I was having a conversation with a friend today about an “almost break up” moment I had with my boyfriend and she said, “Hey! Me too!”.  I inquired what was her reasoning and she explained that it has to do with different communication styles.  Both of our boyfriends are fairly inexperienced with relationships.  She confessed she is inexperienced as well.  And come to think of it, even though I was in a long term relationship at one point… I am also fairly inexperienced.

What have we learned, really?  Unless something forces us to drastically change, we just carry the mistakes of the past into our current relationships and blame it on each other if we call it quits.

The meshing of two people with two completely separate lifestyles is a recipe that needs a LOT of compromising to work.  I don’t know of anyone who likes carrying around compromises in their back pockets.

Sometimes I get caught in the “now”.  Sometimes I am very selfish.  And when that happens I don’t see the whole forest when I am stuck amongst the bristles of a leaf barren tree.  And sometimes HE is too.  No one’s perfect!  Maybe that metaphor was a bit too much.

By being caught in the moment – I amplify the importance of decisions and I amplify my emotional sensitivity to a point where words will hurt (hard).  When things are amplified and urgent, this could create stress and a heavy feeling on everyone involved.

There just needs to be a reminder that hey – I have the rest of my life to figure this out.  What’s the hurry?  If there is a mixture of kindness, patience, and willingness to be emotionally open – really – there is no reason to act with haste.

That is one life lesson I’ve learned (among others) about relationships thus far.  That there is time to learn and grow.  There is time for trust to be built.  There is always time for that proof to bloom in anyone’s perspective of who you are…  You can decide to be urgent if it is biologically healthy for you to do so.  Otherwise, there is always time.

So chill.

Honestly, you can be free and single at any point in life.  Nothing will stop this from happening if you want it to happen.  No marriage certificate, no promise ring, no title… nothing.  So the decision to go back to a status quo might sometimes be what you need.

However – on the other hand… the risk you are taking by having someone in your life to act like your sounding board, to open your eyes on how you are when you are so damn close to another human being (different from family and friends), to give you a healthy reflection of how you really come off… and to care deeply enough to be honest with you about it because there is a vested interest in the betterment of yourself as a person… is worth the whole thing.

All of it.

The entire risk of a relationship.

And that’s the point of a relationship (to me).

So I guess I am pretty damn oblivious to a lot of things.

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On a separate note, here is a random incomplete poem I wrote purely for entertainment purposes while I was bored at the warehouse:

Plunging, suddenly I am hurling towards

More idle time, racking my brain for more stymie rhymes

Steering my irises through window panes

Letting these surroundings fast forward I will choose

To be fashionably late again

 

I am simply mopping to cope with coming down from

Another adrenaline high

I am also playing pretend to infuse these sometimes provincial moments

With exciting lies

I will act like I am hypnotized

I will fake it till I make it as I compromise

 

Oh don’t bother coming down from your thrones

To join me here weeping

Where I will squeeze tears as a sport because it is better than

Not feeling.

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Because I am feeling silly, asian, and duck-faced:

 



What have you learned about life so far

My friend, Hango, AKA, BOB, aka Hangalo, aka Hang… asked me to write a post for her.

Post topic: What are 5 things you have learned about life so far?

It has been a week and I told her I could only think of 1 or 2 or 3-ish at the most.

One is that failure is not the worst thing ever and exploring the weird and the interesting and the strangely taboo… is okay!  That is why I have a therapist.  I have insurance, it affords me a therapist, why not?  Mental health is important just as much as physical health – hence my gym membership.

To keep her identity somewhat private I will name her V.  V told me something very interesting in our last session.  And that is = most working relationships are 50/50.

I was completely oblivious to the fact that having someone pay for you, completely, when you can afford whatever yourself, is …. not right after the dating phase is over.

I shit you not I expected the relationship road ahead of me to be paved by a very nice, cushioned, money-bricked road.

Because I can deliver.  Crazy sex? Check.  A fun experience with another human being? Check. Whatever you want? Maybe check.

Obviously though, after it is no longer just dating and it becomes a relationship, things change.

The concept of paying for a date is still foreign to me.  I know, where have I been living?  Under ex boyfriends who have deluded me into thinking this was okay.  Figuratively, of course!

So the idea of paying… for dates…. is cringeworthy.    My therapist told me healthy and long lasting relationships REQUIRE me to start paying to show appreciation.

I have gotten this far along in my life to not pay during dates.  It’s time to give back?  In a relationship?  If I don’t want my man to feel under-appreciated?  Sure.

Not to say I am not generous.  I am generous in business.  I am generous with random strangers.  The concept of paying for a date does not fit in my paradigm of generosity but THIS IS LIFE!

I can hold my own and have no need for anyone to take care of me.  But what is wrong in wanting it?  Even if I make millions, I still want the guy to pay for everything. EVERYTHING.  I have been schooled that this is the wrong way to go about it.

Ahem.  So that is 1 or 2 life lessons I have learned so far.

Another lesson is….

The more time I have for myself or to be idle, the more I question everything about life.  So it’s best to keep busy and keep productive than to let random questions about life stop me from actually doing life because CONTEMPLATIONS and imaginary conversations are actually nothing when it comes down to it.

And sometimes it can be confused with “planning”, but really, it is just stalling.

If I want to do something, I should just do it.  Pick up a paper, start filling out forms.  Want to exercise?  Join the gym this second (online).  Don’t wait for that Costco discount.  You might go to Costco and decide to buy 10 pies instead of buying the gym membership.  Don’t deliberate.  Life put on pause is not worth it.  You think the outcome will be better if you wait for things to be different before you make the leap?  Unless you need time to save up money for something – it is not worth the wait.

I think these three things should suffice my friend’s bloodthirsty hunger for me to write this post.

You are welcome!

 

 


Pints All Around, Hops in Your Cups, Balls to the Wall

So I am a supporter of all things magical and fun.

Mike and Dariane

Mike and Dariane

Pints All Around is written by Michael Le and Dariane – a couple who decided that they would rather travel the world for a little bit before too many obligations tie them down.

And they are smart about it.  They spent time gathering free mileage, they spent time researching what to pack, they read travel blogs and they prepare well in advance for their journey.

This is the trend that I see going on lately.  Same with this Blog by my colleague Philip Luu.  And then I read quora answers such as the one below: http://www.quora.com/Backpacking-travel/Is-backpacking-really-worth-it/answer/Jack-Calnan?ref=fb.

Michael – or as I call him simply – Mike, describes this journey as a dilation in the space time continuum because time moves way too fast when your life comprises mostly of traveling, but when you look back you realize you’ve lived quite a bit.  Jack Calnan describes it as a series of never ending adventures.

I am seething with envy.

It makes sense, doesn’t it?

When the future is no longer about working all your life for that golden pension, when your value as an individual is not so much defined by how much you fit in line and climb a corporate ladder , when you can make enough money to experience an enriched life through spurts of traveling meanwhile always knowing that you can go back to a job whenever you desire – you fucking go for it.

You can climb a corporate ladder enough to solidify your value from age 22 – 26/27.  Then go travel for a bit before you hit your mid thirties with a halted metabolism, mortgage, kids,  and toppling health issues. You can always take vacations as you go through your schooling as well.

So I raise my glass full of hops to people like Mike, Dariane, Philip, and Jack (total stranger) – for having the balls to go out there and experience as much of the world as they can before life hits them hard in those same balls.  Or maybe not.  Or maybe life continues to be completely adventurous and filled with flying unicorns.

Either way – here is a picture from Mike’s blog.

On a weakly similar note I am going to Mazatlan for vacation in a month for 9 days.  I’ll be staying at the El Cid resort.  Sure sure I just started a business – but this is MY LIFE.  I have to live it.  Any good suggestions?


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So for the past month I feel a little more panicked than usual.

I moved to a desert town by myself in April.

Contrary to popular belief I did not move to the desert to cook (meth).

It is to start an autodismantling business in the middle of nowhere (which usually doesn’t matter all too much because most of my sales are international/out of state).  The feeling of going from a 9-5 stable job every single day to tackling a business venture with no safety net didn’t feel like a sudden jolt out of what I was used to.  It felt like a breath of fresh air I have been dying to breathe for the longest while.

I grew the business to a decent size in the span of 5 months by hiring necessary workers, developing relationships with shop owners/scrap metal recyclers/catalytic converter recyclers/battery-buying people/tire buying people/rim buying people/business mentors, replaced all my hats with good people, outsourced some, negotiated like crazy for everything I had to gather or purchase…

I even got a boyfriend.

Now it is the fifth month and I feel panicked. (more…)


What Does It Mean When You Require More Attention

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I wanted to write about my take on what people consider “neediness” they don’t want/need to deal with.  Why? Because it is a topic which is bothering me as of late.

At the beginning of a relationship, if it is the ones that start post-college, let’s face it – it probably is very sexual.

And when people meet up for these “dates” which are really = eating and waiting to have intercourse periods, ESPECIALLY when two people are casually dating and before exclusivity is declared….. you are not friends.  Sorry.  You are CFWBs.

CFWBs = CIVIL Friends With Benefits.  Because you are not outright declaring you are using each other for sex/company since you don’t even know much about the other person.  But basically that is what it is.  TRUST.

This is compared to DFWBs = DECLARED Friends with Benefits.  DFWBs are either best buddies who share a mutual love for sex and consistently sabotaging any real romantic relationship with their attempted dates OR they share a very cold relationship where hitting it and quitting it is the norm… still consistently sabotaging any real romantic relationship with their attempted dates.

When CFWBs become GF/BFs there is a shift in the paradigm.  Both have agreed that they can have great sex and now are moving on towards other things…. like getting to know each other.  Once great sex is almost a guaranty – you can commence with the transition between SEX MOSTLY to a SEX + Sprinkles of Romance relationship.

Here is where things tend to get STICKY.

ONE OF YOU WILL HAVE A NEED TO RECEIVE MORE ATTENTION.  OR BOTH!

Because a transition from CFWBs –> GF/BF will not be a happy one unless SOMETHING is realized.  That something is the fact that a yearning for friendship/love has begun.  Improper response: “Hey, I was used to only responding to you once a week – what happened? WHY ARE YOU SO MUCH MORE NEEDY?”  Proper response: “Oh, so you need me to do that to make you happy?  Alrighty then!  Let’s get this show on the ROAD.”

When something CLICKS in your mind and you want more attention/texting/calling/initiation during a period where there is USUALLY RADIO SILENCE…… you, my friend, are only exercising your right for love.

Think about it.  You are given love freely from your parents.  You are given love freely from friends – OF COURSE they don’t mind your need to share your thoughts.  There is no such thing as an overload (unless that person is naturally annoying by a unanimous vote).  You start to want the friendship/love that comes freely with others in your life – from your recently acquired significant other.

You are normal.

There are MANY ways this scenario can turn out:

1) They react with insecurity/fear for their own freedom thinking it is mostly about them and not really about your yearning to be fulfilled emotionally (because you got the physical shit DOWN)… then they are not your cup of tea.  Spit it out.  Throw away the  freakin’ cup.  Life is short.  There is no need to keep on sipping that bitter nasty cup of tea when you can have the greatest CHAI TEA you’ve ever tasted in your LIFE if you simply moved on.

2)  They react with trying to increase attention but naturally they suck at it because they are not used to it.  Know yourself to know how much longer you can tolerate it.  However, you will only continue to struggle with it which might lead to fights and could otherwise mess up an okay ending to a short lived story.  No one needs to get mauled in this process.  It was a good run – carry on.  Everyone can move on happy.

3) They react by giving you the attention you need in DROVES.   Like a train that suddenly started and will move NONSTOP.  Like a double rainbow that never stops shinning – providing happiness forever.  You are deliriously happy.  You both move forward in delirious happiness.  Because they realize it’s not about THEM when it comes to asking for more attention, it’s about YOU.  And making YOU happy is what matters.

I might have exaggerated on certain parts of this description.  But you get the gist of what I am saying.

*This is to exclude all behaviors of emotional manipulation.  Once emotional manipulation comes into play – this whole explanation is moot.*

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